is it ok to allow your kids to have male/female sleepovers ?

Answer 1

If they're younger than 6 years old. Any older and then you just might wonder exactly what's happening in that bed. No, they might not be having sex...but there's always 1st, 2nd, and 3rd base.

Answer 2

It totally depends on your parenting choices. I was never allowed to do this as a kid/teen but I snuck around and screwed around with boys anyway and ended up pregnant at a young age.

The older they are, the more likely they are going to go behind your back and have sex or do whatever they want to without your permission. If you allow coed sleepovers you can atleast supervise to a degree and your teen is not likely to do anything if you check in often, make them keep the door open and sit in the other room, for risk of getting caught. Tell him/her: one infraction and parents will be called and everyone goes home. No second chances.

Any younger than 9th grade and I would say no because they don't know about male/female anatomy and you wouldn't want them to find out too early about those things.

Answer 3

It depends on the age--I have 4--17 1/2, 11, 8 1/2 and 4 months-lol I have experience. I let my daughter (the oldest) have them--they are not really "sleepovers" if they are having a party--they don't sleep anyhow. I would rather have them here and have fun than out driving around. Teens will have sex if they want to anywhere--we all know that.
I just let her start doing this--I wouldn't until she was 16 because at 13, 14 , 15 they are way too hormonal and it is all about sex but now they have actual "guy" friends. I of course would never let her bfriend stay over in her room--I am talking about a bunch of teens.

Answer 4

I trust my kids but - no-not at someone elses house! i refuse to allow my sons to attend a "coed" sleepover. too many kids now days go too far, too fast...too soon. hormones and tempations can lead to issue's. I don't care if you have the best kid in the entire world! Teens are teens. No matter if you trust them or not, eventually things like sexual experience will happen, but not on my watch it won't! I know of a girl who used to date my sons best friends. From what I've heard, prior to their breakup, there would be NO WAY my son will attend a sleep over at this girls house!

allowing an all co-ed sleep over is asking for problems.

now, a good alternative if your kids really want to try this is to find a place where all the parent's as well as the kids can hang out-like a day at the beach, park or even camping out for a weekend...that way there are more eye's to see with!

we are planning a camping trip this summer for the kids...there will be about 17 parent's attending and 23 kids. we will have haunted "group" spooks in the woods, fishing, campfires and swimming as well as other activities to keep them busy. it's gonna be a blast (and much cheaper too had you of had to do it yourself!)

Answer 5

I'am a teen. And starting out my answer with that will probably have you thinking that what I say doesn't matter and is all bs. I'm sorry but if you think that, you are wrong. I just want to say that having experienced a few coed slumber parties myself in the past year with friends, I know what goes on. For one, no one is going to have sex. There is no privacy to that extent. And if there is you are not paying enough attention to your teen and you are being way too permissive. Yes I believe that there should be rules that teens attending or throwing these parties should follow. In fact I want have a coed slumber party for my birthday this weekend. I want my mom to know that she can trust me. Why would I want to mess up an oppurtunity to prove to her that I can be responsible and why would i risk messing up my chanches of ever having a party like that again. I'm not going to say that nothing sexual happens at coed slumber parties. But trust me, if your teen wanted to have sex, why wait or take the chances of getting caught at a slumber party. They could do it anywhere, any time. During school at lunch, yes, when you think that your child has no oppurtunity. Well guess what. Oh no. looks like you are going to have to take your kid out of school cause they might be having sex. Exactly, you wouldn't. So you are not stopping anything from happening by not allowing your teen to attened or throw a coed slumber party. I'am not in any way saying you have to let them, just give them a chance and trust them. So please do not slander teens. People have created this image that teens are sex-driven, drug and alcohol abusing, irresponsible and immature children who cannot control their decisions. You were a teen once, yes? Well then you must know that this is a false image. Not everyone is like that. If you were, well maybe you should let your teen make their own mistakes and learn from it. Otherwise they won't learn at all. I don;t mean to offend anyone and I respect all of your opinions, I just want you to respect mine.

Answer 6

It depends on your children. If they are in middle school or high school, then no unless you are ready to have set rules and your ready to supervise.

Have the boys in one room and the girls in the other for sleeping. Make sure the doors on these rooms are open at ALL times and do head counts often. Before the go to sleep, tell them they can hang out in a family oriented space, like a living room, dining room or kitchen. Check in on them often and tell them that unless they are sleeping the lights are to stay on.

If someone is caught breaking these rules, call their parents and tell them what they were doing and ship them home. You don't have to get rid of everyone, just the problem causer(s).

As long as they know that you are going to check on them, and you are serious with the rules they won't do anything.

Answer 7

I do not think there should ne co-ed sleepovers!

That is just asking for trouble and teenage hormones to flair up.

Let kids be kids and keep it one gender. If they want the other gender over they can come for cake and go home

Answer 8

Depends on how old the kids are.

7 and under yes

8 and older not in a million years.

Answer 9

Depends on the age..... I guess. My daughter and my friends son used to sleepover at each other's house all the time, they got along great., and not in a "sick" sense

Answer 10

I dont think its a good idea. If its two kids who are like five sure. If its two kids who have any idea about what sex is then no certainly not. If you have a daughter and you let her have her male friends sleep over then shes going to think that its acceptable behavior when shes older. They could get to having sex and then youve bascially okay'd it for your daughter to be slutty...which is a bad idea to me.