well, i met a really nice guy on Facebook (it's not a dating website or anything, it's just a site for college students. more or less like myspace). anyway, we've been talking for the past 5 months (i'm in egypt, and he's in the states), and i'm going to the states next fall for a semester abroad (he already graduated), and we're definitely going to be seeing each other a lot when i go there. we like each other so much and i know it might sound irrational because we've never actually met before. anyway, my question is: how do you think the very first time i meet him would go? i've already imagined that, but i need other opinions. thanks.
2007-01-03 13:17:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just don't sleep in the same bed or put yourself in a situation where you make yourself vulnerable. If you play it safe and advance as you would someone starting from scratch in person, then it could be totally fun and fulfilling.
I've met a handful of people online and about 75% of the time theyve turned out quite different than what I've expected and about 20% of the time unacceptably so. Stuff like weird body language, speech impediments, and body odor don't show up online.
I've known a few people whove gotten in bad situations by meeting their online boyfriends for the first time, usually when that happens, its when theyre stuck in circumstances where theres a no way out i.e. travelling long distances just to meet the guy without making safe plans on third party sleeping accomodations. The worst I've known of was a girl who got robbed by her online fiancee. I'm sure worse has happened. Make sure you have something to fall back on if your plans with him fall apart.
Now that I've gotten over the doom&gloom, it could be awesome! Just be careful and take it slow.
2007-01-03 22:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by ha_lynn2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing someone from the net CAN be quite different from actually knowing the person in person. You can never be sure if he's the same person your talking(even for 5 months) to till you at least spend time with him in person(and not virtually).
so in my opinion, go and and meet him just dont expect too much and don't go all out for the first time you meet(you've got a whole semestral ahead of you to enjoy, you wouldn't want to start it heart broken), you might end up getting dissappointed or something for expecting too much. And then AFTER you feel that he seems to be the right person and your ready, then go for it! good luck! :)
2007-01-03 13:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by vatattat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think of absolutely everyone needs to have a protracted distance courting. existence happens and gets interior the way, you merely would desire to paintings around it. If somebody needs to be with their long distance BF or GF sufficient/or they love them sufficient, they are going to pass to the place the different individual is and supply up the long distance factor. those people who've relationships over the internet or out of state "merely because of the fact" are probable dropping their time. long distance relationships wont final if there isnt dedication.
2016-10-06 09:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by bungay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really can't possibly know,it could go fine or it could just
fall apart instantly.the only way is to meet him.hope for the best
but be prepared for anything.
in 1984 i met this girl on the singles thing,we wrote for 8 months
before we met and it was wonderful.we even speculated about
the "what if",then we met in person.
it turned out to be a big dissapointment for the both of us.
this is'nt to say that this could happen to you,but you would'nt
buy a car you've never seen before now would you ?
best of luck to the both of you
2007-01-03 13:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE CAREFUL! with all the stuff you hear about the internet and stuff i suggest you be very careful. this guy may be super sweet and everything over the net but people could be different in person. hopefully you're thinking about meeting up in a busy BUSY place like a coffee place or a mall or something. try to have someone with you, just in case something happens. just BE CAREFUL!
2007-01-03 13:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by HappySoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be definitely be nerves,because when you first just talk to people online and then meet them,you don't honestly know what to expect. In majority of cases,though ill reported,good things happen when people meet up online. So my thoughts for you is just act natural,and everything will be fine.
2007-01-03 13:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my fiance online, met face to face almost a year after we started talking. My stomach was filled with butterflies, i was nervous as hell. But we had an immediate connection and everything was smooth. You'll be ok if you guys are meant to be.
2007-01-03 13:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're probably not going to have trouble finding him cuz u already know so much about him it'll probably be great, like the rejoining of old friends
2007-01-03 13:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by asianator14 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is going to be really romantic and exciting. be careful though! I know facebook is safe and everything but just make sure someone else knows what your plans are! Have fun.
2007-01-03 13:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets just hope its a happy occasion. Lots of smiles and hugs possibly kisses!
2007-01-03 13:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋