say theres a man that was married for 7yrs with a child.he loves his child and wife very much and trys everything emotionally and financially to keep his wife happy.the more he gives/trys the meaner she gets.after 7yrs he gets a e-mail from a old gf.this gf gives him the attention and understanding his wife does not.he leaves his wife for the gf.he is overwhelmed with guilt and trys to comit suicide but at the last min. decides not to for his sons sake.this man then proceeds to give his wife everything house,cars,all the money he has in the bank and gets 2 jobs to make sure his son can keep his lifestyle.so here are my questions:is he a decent guy that tryed to make his marrage work but got temped by a hot sexy blond that was good at manipulation and gave him the love his marrage was missing.or is he just a snake that knew what he was doing and if he was that unhappy in his marrage he should have left before he cheated on his wife.
2007-01-03 12:58:41 · 13 answers · asked by sarahmcnailly789 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yeah, i am on the verge
2007-01-03 13:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you finally got it there with the last sentence. Yes, you should have gone for counseling with or with out your wife. You should know that if you starve yourself long enough, you'll eat out of the garbage can. It's just as much your fault as it was your wife. We always blame the other person but I'm sure that you were not being some romantic sex pot either. Something easy came along for you and you took the bait. Not right but it happens. Life is just not all that difficult. There is nothing worth taking your life over. It's another cowards way out. Just get your life together for the sake of your kids. They just want a Father that is happy and content with life and himself. It's a shame that things had to turn out the way that they did but there is no turning back so you have to make the most of things now and you can do that. Make sure you let your children know that you and their mother did not split up because of them that they are in no way responsible. Take your time getting into a new relationship and remember that the person you end up with will be the children's step mom and so you need to think of them as well as yourself. Start a clean slate and get a little counseling so you don't make the same mistake again and again. It's not all that bad. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back out there.
2007-01-03 13:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by sunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly a mean and nasty controlling wife connot drive a man to cheat. The man is honestly a low self esteemed, weak guy. It does not matter if the man or women is in the wrong, still gives no reason to cheat!! He should have got a divorce before he got with his ex-girlfreind. And that was very manly to do what he did, the whole house, money in the bank, cars...etc. You won't find a man like that very often...And for the wife, i don't know what high horse she is on, but he was more generous then ever to do such a thing, she must be a real winch, for him to leave after 7 years.. but if he did it ONLY for his son, then he is a great dad, and the wife never deserved him anyways, i hope she is not that selfish with their son!
Good Luck
2007-01-03 13:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are hard work!! If you love your family- tell her how you feel and get counselling ,and sounds like she needs a counsellor of her own too. If you do not get help with this relationship you are more likely to repeat the same mistakes again in your next one. You are not unusual to look for love outside the relationship when your partner is not giving any to you, but if you go there before you break up- you WILL feel guilty about it and your child will be angry at you for it. Remember you DID love her once..... try to find it again.... it is beautiful, all the best.
2007-01-03 13:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is, his wife did not drive him to the affair, but rather he chose to have an affair. The other woman was his drug of choice to make himself feel better. Unfortunately, this only compounded his problems. His wife sounds like a demanding person who is trying to control him. However, he is trying to control her by being extremely nice to her. In his attempt to control by being nice he has entered a vicious circle. He continues to be nice hoping she will change. What happens is that he becomes a doormat and his wife loses respect for him. She gets more demanding for him to be what she wants him to be, trying to change him and on and on it goes. He needs to be more assertive with his wife, say "no" to her when it is appropriate to do so. He will than earn her respect. If he changes himself instead of his wife, she will have to respond differently to him. Both of these people are very co-dependent. They would both benefit from professional counseling.
2007-01-03 14:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a choice. No matter how a person's husband or wife acts, a cheater is responsible for their own actions. You can't blame others for your own actions. There are other ways of dealing with tough situations without doing the wrong thing.
2007-01-03 19:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by Niki L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he has a bigger problem than cheating on his hateful wife no one is worth killing yourself for I'm just glad he lived his son enough to not leave him fatherless as far as working 2 jobs to keep his kid in a high lifestyle it never killed a kid to hear the words "NO you can't fave it) everyone makes mistakes and that was a mistake one it should never happen again his wife and him needs to go to counseling to help her not be a witch and he needs to put his foot down and say he's not going to work himself to death so everyone can have all the crap they want and don't need.
2007-01-03 13:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by notes from an angry white chic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its impossible to judge, but i could say that he really cares for his family. Probably the romance and passion has gone, that why he ended up cheated on his wife.
Moral of story: support your husband morally and emotionally especially if he is a loving husband
2007-01-03 13:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation... i don't condone cheating but everyone deserves happiness and especially love... As long as this man is happy and the people in which he loves are happy, all seems to be well. He obviously loves his son.
2007-01-03 13:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. she will suffer the consequences. when he is so responsible and adjustable she has to understand him. if she still drives him fury, it is possible for him to take a side whre he gets which he does not get at home.it is in the hands of the wife to understand him and retain him.
2007-01-04 01:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by Muruks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have left his wife before looking around.
2007-01-03 13:02:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋