can a nasty controlling wife drive her husband to cheat on her?

Question

say theres a man that was married for 7yrs with a child.he loves his child and wife very much and trys everything emotionally and financially to keep his wife happy.the more he gives/trys the meaner she gets.after 7yrs he gets a e-mail from a old gf.this gf gives him the attention and understanding his wife does not.he leaves his wife for the gf.he is overwhelmed with guilt and trys to comit suicide but at the last min. decides not to for his sons sake.this man then proceeds to give his wife everything house,cars,all the money he has in the bank and gets 2 jobs to make sure his son can keep his lifestyle.so here are my questions:is he a decent guy that tryed to make his marrage work but got temped by a hot sexy blond that was good at manipulation and gave him the love his marrage was missing.or is he just a snake that knew what he was doing and if he was that unhappy in his marrage he should have left before he cheated on his wife.

Answer 1

If the wife was the issue, then he should have left it before the infidelity. He would have been better off. My guess is that it's easier to get a divorce on the grounds of mental cruelty then adultery (when you're the one who cheated).

I don't think he's either really, more a victim of circumstance and his own very poor judgment. The bottom line is he made a choice and now he's dealing with the consequence.

Answer 2

When you make a vow, that's it. If you want anyone else, you must leave the marriage before pursuing anyone. A cheater is a cheater. If she's so bad, get her some help or leave.

Answer 3

Cheating is wrong. Did you make a vow? In good times and bad? You cannot blame it on anyone but yourself. She may have given you reason, but you made the choice.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like the wife is the one with the problem.

Answer 5

yes yes yes

Answer 6

all right