Nephews dad committed Suicide 7 years ago ~ Last night Nephews Best Friend Committed Suicide!?

Question

My Nephew is one of 3 brothers whose dad shot himself in the head 7 years ago. My nephew is now 16 years old and just last night one of his best friends shot himself in the head with my nephews gun! His best friends dad told my nephew that his son had been looking for shells before and to just try and reassure him that it wasn't his fault, it would have happend no matter what.

Last night my nephews step dad took him to his friends house and fortunately his step dad made him stay in the truck as when walking around the house his step dad saw spattered blood and a bullet hole through the window.

I haven't talked to my nephew yet, as I know he will call me when he is ready. My mom said she has a feeling he is going to want me to go to the funeral to be his rock. He often turns to me for help/guidence. How is he going to get through this? Most don't have to endure suicide once in there life let alone twice! Please words to help him by would be appreciated. Thank You.

Scott, I can't believe that anyone could be so heartless as to leave a response such as yours. My nephew hunts with his step dad and he is quite responsible. The fact that you say suicide in the family and to get him away from me and my family is beyond comprehensible for you to even write. I can only assume you need attention and in doing so you want to in turn hurt me with your obviously scornful and untrue words.

OBVIOUSLY you have never dealt with tragedy and I certainly hope that when that day comes for you, you realize your cruel response and would be lucky to not encounter someone like you in your time of need.

Answer 1

My prayers go out to you and your family.It is important that you start by affirming your nephew and letting him know that everything he is experiencing is normal OK. It is impossible to put a time line on how long his grief will last since it is a possess that everyone experiences differently. You are right, having to experience 2 suicides in a lifetime is a tremendous amount for anyone to endure. This is going to be an extremely challenging time for him and it is extremely important that the people in his life be understanding of his emotional needs as they will change from day to day. Additionally, he may experience suicidal thoughts during this period so it is important that be put in contact with a mental health professional just to rule out any suicidal thoughts, ideations or intentions. Additionally, the support of a respected clergy member, teacher or mentor could be extremely helpful to him as well.

Answer 2

Here are some numbers for you.

SUICIDE PREVENTION

Suicide & Crisis Hotline [phone] Help for Troubled Teens

National Hope Line Network 1-800-784-2433 Suicide Prevention



SOMEONE TO TALK ABOUT IT TO

Talk Zone 1-800-475-TALK Peer Counselors

Teen Help Line 1-800-400-0900 Help Line For Troubled Teens

Teen Hot Line 1-800-747-8336 Hot Line For Troubled Teens

VOICES In Action, Inc. 1-773-327-1500

Youth Development International 1-800-HIT-HOME (448-4663) Youth Crisis Hotline

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I don't have DATA. But I do have 1 reference for viewing. Here a damn good friend I had known since he was a small boy gave up. One of many that I have known who gave up. Cameron (May God watch over his soul) was a great young man, He jumped from a moving car at 65 MPH and laid in a coma for a week before he died. I though it Odd that they donated his organs, But knowing his father and what he was like (Personal views) I could see it. Cameron was deeply depressed when his mother passed. 2 Years later I walked up to him at a meeting while he was just staring out the window. I always called him my Son as I loved him dearly. He turned to me and said, "Of all the "Brothers" in THIS HALL I knew you would be the only one to see if I was OK." He said it was 2 years since his mother had died and that dad didn't seem to care. That is a Quote by the way. It was not long after that he was gone, Though we did chat on Yahoo and had dinner a few times and I loved his knowledge of world history. I left the Jehovah's BORG after being turned into the State of Montana 2 times and the final Straw was when they (Elder) asked for my Medical Records. There are Hippa Laws to protect people from the likes of those evil mind control wizards. Sadly since my God is Jehovah and I approach him through my Faith in Jesus Christ and NOT through the Organization who "Claims" to be the Voice of God. ya, right. More New Light. I am now called an Apostate because I refuse to accept an Earthly Organization which is IDOLATRY. For ONLY Christ saves and not through some Human Source that has no power, Yet they think so. FAIL! Below is a link, Notice how nothing is said about HIM yet it glorifies the Organization as a whole yet they left this Wonderful boy/Man in the dark.

Answer 5

OKay as another person who has had to go through suicides twice and talk one of my other friends into not doing it there really isn't anything you can say its gonna take awhile and he may never really get over it but he will get better he just needs the love of his family and tell him everything will be ok and that his friend is watching over him from a better place i hope this helps!

Answer 6

Suicide is just so hard on the family and friends that it leaves behind. And there are no specific words to ease the minds or hearts of those feeling the loss.
You just be there for your nephew to listen, don't search for words to fix what has happened.

Answer 7

Go to the funeral...be his rock...you don't have to say much, because their isn't much to say. My cousin committed suice this September and the pain is still there for me...it is going to take him a while to forget the pain especially since this is the second time.....just let him know that You will be there, no matter what.

Answer 8

Your poor nephew. My mother killed herself and the only thing that helped was to talk about it. Get him to open up and talk freely. It does help. But just be there for him. You sound as if you love him. He will benefit from you and your support. You will all be in my thoughts tonight.God bless.Be strong.

Answer 9

I don't have the words to say since I've never dealt with anything like that before, but my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours in this horrible time in your lives.

Answer 10

omg, that poor boy! just be there for him to listen and be a shoulder to cry on! mostly listen to him! he'll need it.no young man should have to endure that! sorry to hear of all this. :(