He slowly has been giving me the impression that he wasn't making himself available on nights that we could see each other. We had a lot of fun when we were together and we talked on the phone 2 and 3 times a night. We started out really fast and it went downhill just as fast it seems. I was expecting him to come over one night and he didn't show up and when I called him to see where he was he said, "Was I supposed too" We ended up breaking up that night and I have talked to him once in 2 weeks and now he tells me he needs more time to see if we are meant to be. I miss him so much. I want to talk to him so bad. What should I do?
2007-01-03 12:45:52 · 8 answers · asked by accordingex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously he knows that you care for him and want to see him. You would think that he would at least spend a little time with you. He doesn't. Therefore two possibilities exist. One, he really doesn't care for you, only cares for himself and has wasted your time and emotions in not telling you this much sooner, but leaving you on tenderfoot. Also he is very selfish and indulgent. Two, that he has found another. If this is the case then in breaking up so easily with you and not even telling you the truth shows that he not only really doesn't give a fig for you but is a very selfish, cruel and indulgent person. In fact when he didn't call as often and the relationship began to go down then I suspect he has already found or been interested in someone else. If he found, then he has played with your emotions in a very cruel manner. If he was interested, then he was unfaithful and all of the above.
Either way he is not back side of a person suited to any relationship. If he was honest then he would have told you up front when you spoke to him when he was supposed to come over. It took ages for him to tell you and isn't it strange. You two have been together and had a lot of fun and it is only beginning now to dawn on him that he needs more time to consider. What does he want you to do. Wait in the wings till HE decides wheather or not HE finds it convenient to be with you? Experience is usually when someone asks for more time to consider or other such nonesense(for going together some time should tell a person such- if this is a decent person) , nine times out of ten it means that the person doesn't want you any more and is not decent enough to tell you.
If the first possibility is, then he is a selfish, indulgent, irresponsible and ruthless person. Not the type of person you should be considering a serious relationship with. If the second possibility, then he is a selfish, indulgent, irresponsible, ruthless AND faithless person. Definitley not the type of person you should be considering a serious relationship with.
This bloke has used you for his own ends and now finds it innconvenient to continue. You have a life to live. A life that should entail honest, caring and loving relationships. You owe it to youself. He didn't even have the decency to tell you this up front. He let you pine after him and be emotionally hurt. Put this bloke where he belongs. In the garbage can of bad experience. Because you deserve good experiences. This is your right. Take it, for youself, you future children, your self respect and for the life that you should have. And good luck.
2007-01-03 13:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THis is coming from a guy,
"was i supposed to" Yeah right no guy that is really into a girl would forget to come over, I mean I wouldn't
You've talked to him once in two weeks and he says he needs more time.
I think you need to come to the realization that he is proabably over you and weither doesn't wnat a relationship or he has met another chick that he is tlaking to but doesn't want to break your heart.
I don't know how old you are but i'd find another dude
2007-01-03 21:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space and don't contact him. I know it's hard, but when a guy doesn't show up when he says he will or barely contacts you in 2 weeks, then he's moving on. Do the same and find someone who will appreciate you.
2007-01-03 20:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he got what he wanted.Let him go and see what happens after some time apart.Concentrate on you & family right now.
2007-01-03 20:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by jimbobob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on...chances are he has already moved on to someone else. if he still wants to be with you, silence is the best way to see...do what he has done to you...don't call...don't act like you need to see him.
2007-01-03 20:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on and quit wasting ur time with somebody who isnt even TRYING to be in a relationship with u
2007-01-03 20:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get busy if he calls be busy but talk to him later.Do not beg or cry or pine, it makes them run. just act like everything is fine.
2007-01-03 21:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON.
2007-01-03 20:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by zooey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋