Im 28 and my man for 2 yrs is 54. Can this really work?

Question

I have noticed how he seems to be a little insecure. He is also very set in his ways and so am i. Compromising is where we seem to keep bumping heads.

Answer 1

If it has worked for 2 years, then what's to keep it working for many more? In 10 years however when you're 38, he will be 64? Does that make a difference to you? Think long and hard, be honest with yourself, and if the answer is NO, then go for it! Good Luck!!

Answer 2

You can "make" anything work...Question is will you be very happy in the end.
I dated this guy 13 years my senior and in the end he just started playing "daddy" and not a very nice daddy at that. He played so many mind games, so many that I didn't realize at the time...probably because he had some insecurities about our age difference. Also, my close friend dated a man like 16 years her senior, and it was great for the first 3 years, he treated her like gold, catered to her every need and really aimed to please her. But then as time went by, the fun came to an end and she said he was tired a lot, and basically complained like an old man and she wasn't ready for that. That sounds kinda shallow but it's really some of the feelings a younger goes thru being with an older man.

I'm sure he's a nice guy or you wouldn't have stuck with him for 2 years now... but I don't think it's in your favour....that's just my thoughts though. Best of Luck!

Answer 3

Love doesn't ask your age and if you keep working on your relationship (like all of them require!) it will work. There is a very famous couple in germany, he is a great actor, singer and now 103! years young at heart, his wife is 57, also a famous actress and singer. They got married 16 years ago and when you see them together, you know they love each other.

Answer 4

If you are doubting it then you know there is something wrong here. If you really loved him and you didn't care what other people thought...you wouldn't have asked us for an opinion. When you are in your 30's he will be in his 60's. Is there truely a future here? You wanting kids later down the road? Think it over hard!

Answer 5

I just celebrated by 16 year anniversary with a man 29 years older than myself.
You are probably gonna have to bend to his ways a little more, depends on the dynamic though...

Answer 6

Of course it can...you're not 15 anymore. You are a grown woman! Anything you put time, effort and devotion to will always suceed. Stand by your man, because after two years something is going right! And who cares what anyone else says...be happy and love him with all you are!

Answer 7

Some people can and some people don't. When you are in a relationship of this nature you have to remember there are different mind sets.... You are young full of life (suppose to be) and he is getting older. some men this age are full of life which is rare. So just take your time with him and see where it takes you.

Answer 8

Well, how is it working so far? Past circumstances are the best predictor of future ones. Have the first two years worked? If so, then sure you can work. If not, then there's your answer. Good luck either way!

Answer 9

If you both want it to.......but you have to consider that when you are 48, he will be 74 - the age diff. is not so much, right now, 20 years from now, it will be a major difference. Better think this through.

Answer 10

I think any relationship can work no matter what your age is. If you are ready to settle with a person just make sure that he or she is ready to be with you and only you. My husband is 12 years older and we have had our ups and downs but we are still togather. but if you are sure that he is the one for you then yes it will work out if you want it to work.