I really like this girl, but she wants to be boyfriend free for another year. I really like her, and she knows it. She hasn't said that she won't date me, but she's said no to right now. Maybe in the future. So is it worth waiting and staying without a girlfriend untill I know if I can get together with her?
2007-01-03 12:28:03 · 14 answers · asked by Weston 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really really like this girl, and it sounds like your'e young-so you have plenty of time, then you can wait. If you really really like this girl it probably is worth the wait. But make damm sure first of two things: One, that you really-really really like this girl enough to wait and pass off other opportunities. Two , that she has a good reason for doing what she is doing. If she has then by all means wait. If she is genuine then it will be well worth it to be with that special one. But be sure of this.
However there is another possibility. If she has no particular good reason then she does not want you but will not come out and say it. And if you wait you will not only have your trust and patience thrown back in your face by someone who doesn't have enough respect for you to be honest with you, but also you will miss out on many opportunities to get that special someone.
For without a good reason why she is doing this she is wasting your time, playing you for a fool and has such contempt for you that she expects you(or doen't even have the decency to come out and tell you this-but deliberately leaves it to your impression:knowingly)to wait upon her, knowing full well she won't go with you, and ruining this part of your life. Experience shows that most of the time when a girl says she wants to be alone or "boyfriend free" she means that concerning you-NO WAY. And they don't even have the decency to let you go to live your life, because they are either cowardly or self indulgent or both. And remember, although she hasn't actually said she won't date you,she hasn't actually said that she will, might or even an indication.
So one thing is very important. Make absolutely damm sure about her reasons or experience. If she has a good reason-fine-wait. However, if not, don't waste you time on someone who will waste your time and hasn't even got the decencey to tell you so.
It is YOUR life, YOUR self respect, YOUR time and YOUR emotions. Not someones to play around with you, toy with you or break your heart when you have waited so long. You have a life to live, your life, you owe it to youself. Make sure of the facts and then decide upon the facts. And good luck.
2007-01-03 12:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so. Maybe she isn't sure about the kind of person you are, and another year will give her enough time to get to know you. Whatever her reasons, she hasn't outright said "no". People have to be careful these days, and if they get too involved too soon there's no room for turning back if things turn ugly. I think you should wait the year, if you really like her. You might even get to know the kind of person she really is.
Just be warned ... if she is "testing" you, so to say, then it would be a bad idea to go behind her back and date someone else without at least giving her the courtesy of knowing where your thoughts are. Secrets have a way of coming out at the most inappropriate times.
2007-01-03 12:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jewels 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue to live your life...don't ever put your life on hold for anyone.I'm sure if you look around you'll see some other girl who catches your eye. maybe she's waiting for a guy like you to come around right now ! go for it....what if you do wait a year for the other girl..whats that going to look like ? building up a fantasy in your head and then when you reach the "one year waiting", anniversary date she 's tells you; " sorry I'm dating Jimmy now." ..if you and her are meant to be--- it --- Will happen down the road..in the mean time, in the in between time have fun. make new friends... love sometimes pops up nexpectedly.. be ready to embrace it ! .have fun...be safe..
2007-01-03 12:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a girl likes you she'd jump at the chance to be with you, i think she would date someone else in the time frame so i would tell her "i am waiting around on you" but i wouldnt pass up a chance to see another girl if given the chance. best advice stay close to her as a friend and if something happens well lucky you but i wouldnt stay home because chances are she doenst want to hurt your feelings and she has her eye on another guy and lets say you decide to wait and 6 months later you see her with another dude see my point
2007-01-03 12:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a rough situation to be in. on the one hand, if you really really really have feelings for her, then it's worth it to wait and show her how much she's worth waiting for. however, if you get this vibe from her that she's not that into you, then it's ok to move on.
go with your gut feeling.
2007-01-03 12:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by Haiti Cherie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is really not interested, otherwise there would be no reason to wait...She is just putting you off, because she does not want to hurt your feelings. Move on.
2007-01-03 12:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if shes putting you off for a year there's a reason sounds like shes not into that way sounds like your in the friend zone bro go find another
2007-01-03 12:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by jwinsett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put yourself on hold for this girl. There are plenty of others out there that wouldn't make you wait.
2007-01-03 12:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her you will wait. It may not take a year.
2007-01-03 12:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by Mystic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont put urself on hold just 4 her. there's millions of girls out there n many of em r better than her.
2007-01-03 12:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋