My boyfriend recently broke up with me. He is divorced and its effecting our relationship. We were totally in love. He says that being with me makes him afraid because everything that we are was just the way him and his ex wife were together. He is scared it is going to turn out the same way. He said he had to break up with me because he doesnt want it to end like that and he promised himself he would fall in love and he did. He is now dating his ex girlfriend and he says its because he knows how their future is going to be and with me he doesnt know and he doesnt like that. I dont understand what that means! I just wish there was a way to assure him I am not like his ex wife and I wouldnt fight and argue and accuse him of cheating like she did. I want him to see Im different and not be afraid of the future with me. I love him with all my heart and I want him back. How do I get him back, I want to convince him I won't hurt him and I am worth it.
2007-01-03 12:03:18 · 3 answers · asked by amby869 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy gave you the classic Break up speech...It's not you...it's me...
He wanted to date his ex gf. Plain and simple. If he didn't, he wouldn't have made up an excuse as lame as this to break up with you. If I were you, I'd be pissed. Why don't you ask him next time you talk to him why he didn't just tell you that he wanted to date her again, and that he still had feelings for her???
I mean really, if he was sooooo in love with you, he couldn't just turn around and start sleeping with someone else practically right away.
Don't believe the line of Bullsh** he's trying to run past you. Call him out on it. Right now he's got you all feeling sorry for him instead of mad at him for dumping you to be with someone else.
2007-01-03 12:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by brittany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be hard to hear, but you really, really need to move on. This guy is very mixed up and will only mix you up in the mess if you try to stay in his life. You need someone without the "baggage" this guy has. You deserve so much better than someone who gives you these sad excuses. Love shouldn't be this hard. When it's always work, that should be a red flag.
2007-01-03 12:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not you it is him. Until he stops comparing relationships he will go thru the same issue. What you can do is make him aware of this , maybe he is not. SO approach him and make him see how he is comparing realtionships and because on his previous relationship he took a left turn at the crossroads it does not means that he has to take the same turn on your relationship.
Once you make him aware of this he will need to work on dropping his habit of comparing. Good luck
2007-01-03 12:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cyrinos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋