Doctors say it doesn't look good. My step-dad and I usually get along well, but now he's depressed and doesn't want to talk to anyone about anything. How do I act toward him now that he is so sensitive?
2007-01-03 12:03:01 · 20 answers · asked by TracieLacy 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Tell him he doesn't have to talk about the cancer, now or ever if he doesn't want to. Tell him he doesn't have to say anything profound or deep right now or ever if he doesn't want to. Tell him you miss your friendship and you want to continue enjoying the relationship you have always had until it ends for whatever reason. Tell him you don't want to miss out on having a good time with him because of a diagnosis. Tell him God is in control and prayer changes things! Tell him you love him. Tell him tomorrow is not promised to any of us, so live for today and today, right now, you want ice-cream so get up and let's go get some!
Behave like you always have. That will be the most comfort. And I mean what I said about the prayers and God being in control. Try him!
2007-01-03 12:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a nurse. I think that this time now is very precious. I would tell jokes to break the ice. Also try to be supportive and understanding of how he must be feeling. Spending time and talking about other things I feel is so important. He will start to talk with you more on a serious level. When he does listen and spend time showing your love and concern without being too serious. I hope this gives you some ideas. I know this is very hard for your family, but try to hang in there. I'm a Christian and I'll be praying for you and your family. I have a video I think your family will enjoy. www.mayyoubeblessedmovie.com All the best.
2007-01-03 12:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I recall when I got the news from my doctor that the biopsy had come back positive. Since my father-in-law died from it and my brother had it, I just started asking a lot from American cancer and Us TOO. I stay in touch with a lot of "survivors" at the moment but so much of what they bring to the discussions are very technical.
best thing that happened was a close friend from high school came back into my life following a reunion. He had cardiovascular problems and was helping me with those decisions and he recently was diagnosed with PC, so I helped him with decisions about it.
It was good to have a tough Marine in my corner.
My family helped a lot with the trips to the cancer center, and have been supportive in so many ways.
Best thing I can tell you to advise your loved one about this is to help him locate someone he trusts that is going through similar circumstances. It sure helped me knowing that no matter who else wasn't there, my friend would be. Can't always say that about family as a lot you say & do with life threatening diseases is harsh and scary. Not easy to discuss with family.
2007-01-03 17:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by Migsoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You treat him with TRUE GENUINE LOVE. Whether a person has cancer or not, they're human. He needs you more than ever. Go with the flow as far as his mood. If he's quiet, don't talk a lot but hug him, give him a rub on his back. Buy him a Hallmark card that says "I love you". My wife had breast cancer and what she needed the most was me being there for her. He'll understand.
2007-01-03 12:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by Joe D 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You act the same way as you always have.
He's going to need time to come to grips with this one, and all that you can do in the meantime is remind him that you still care. I'm not saying that this well get any better, but this is about helping him, your mother and anyone else. You all need to be helping each other.
2007-01-03 12:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be as normal as possible,wrapping him up in cotton wool will probably make him feel 10 times worse.
It is a very distressing time for everyone, your just going to have to go with the flow.
2007-01-04 23:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by Countess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be with him and let him know you love him. when someone has a life threatning disease they say to surround yourself with positive people. try to be happy. that is the best gift you can give your dad. also call the American Cancer Society they can send you free information and it gives you someone to talk to and guide you. Am Cancer Society is great. They even called me after I had cancer surgery to see how I was doing.
2007-01-03 12:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by smiley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-29 22:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him an ear to talk to and treat him with respect tell him you love im no matter what and ask him to open up to you im so sorry to hear about your step father
2007-01-03 12:57:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many ways. Ask the National Cancer Inst. for the peer support both of you need.
2007-01-03 12:06:36 · answer #10 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋