First, please no flaming. My decision to terminate my pregnancy was the hardest decision I have ever had to make. When I first found out I was pregnant, I was excited although it was not planned or expected. I was engaged and was looking forward to having our baby. Soon after telling the dad, I saw his dark side. I never would have guessed he could be so volatile. I decided to end our relationship, not just for me but for my 4 year old. I figured if he could turn on me, he would more than likely do the same to her and that just wasn't a risk I was willing to take. I needed to break away from the guy but could not afford to have another child on my own and being unmarried and pregnant is career suicide in my line of work. It would have cost me my job which was my only means of supporting myself and my toddler. I did what I thought I needed to do but I still feel horrible. I don't want to lie to my family and tell them I miscarried. What would be the best way to tell them?
2007-01-03 11:49:55 · 7 answers · asked by Persephone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OMG there was not much I could add, all the answers were awesome. The number one thing I agree is the truth and don't hide it or lie. Lies will always come out some-day Always. That seems to hurt worse than any truth. Hang-in there. your heart told you. God has his reasons. I don't believe in abortion, But not my decision ever. and not mine to judge. You are you. Getting away from him, I lived that abusive life it only gets worse in time. Good for you being brave, and taking that stand. God Bless you.
2007-01-03 12:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything does happen for a reason. If that pregnancy had not occurred, you never would have seen the dark side of your fiance'. Anyone who truly loves you and your child will understand when you tell them that you decided that it wasn't the time for you to have another child, especially one you would be raising on your own. Those who judge you harshly, I'm certain, have their own "skeletons" in their closets. Make sure you are okay with it yourself, and try not to worry what others think.
2007-01-03 12:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure the decision to terminate your prenancy was hard on you . I do not believe in doing that , but who am I to judge you . First tell the person you are closest to , and ask that person to be with you when you tell everyone else . I wish you and child the best .
2007-01-03 11:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by christina3661@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell them anything. In time they will figure it out.
Just say you lost the baby if asked and, if pressured for a bit more just say "you'd rather not talk about it".
You don't need to lie, they can come to what ever conclusion they want to. It's your business and you can keep it yours if you want to. Good luck and May God Bless You.
2007-01-03 12:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be brave, truth and honest. Tell your family your problem and decision and they will bless you in taking the right course of action.
2007-01-03 11:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by burr burr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you loss. Tell the truth. Just tell them how he acted and you felt it was best to not have this child under those condictions. I wish you well, and hope your family understands.
2007-01-03 13:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do they know about his "real" personality? if not, tell them and then tell them about breaking up and terminating the preg. I think it will not be so hard to hear that way.
2007-01-03 11:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by LatterDaySaint and loving it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋