i have not figured out why i had an affair and consequently destroyed my relationship with the one woman i have always loved and always will love. i had a perfect life, why the hell did i do it.i cant find the answer and its torturing me.i need to give my ex partner a honest answer to settle her mind and i dont know why i did it.any ideas as to why i should have done such a stupid thing?
2007-01-03 11:47:05 · 31 answers · asked by matured 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a 54 yrs. old male , and all I can say is you better try you damnedest to get her back , you see most guys give in to that feeling you get when you see a hot babe , you've got to fight it ! You now I've been married to the same woman for over 25 yrs. and I still love her , though I still look at other women once in a while . But I always think do I want a good piece of a-s or do I want a great woman ? " Tell her on your knees baby please I know I really messed up I was really an idiot and stupid , I don't deserve you , but I really need you . Please baby forgive me as I'm going to ask God right now in front of you to please forgive me for my weakness I'm but human Lord please forgive me Lord , Now grab her hand and ask her again please baby forgive me . I know it's going to take time to trust me again , so please forgive me and keep me in line , I don't care what I have to do for you , just don't leave me baby please " !! I wish you luck man .
2007-01-03 12:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by I'M JUST TRYING TO HELP YOU 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad always says that there'd be no bad men if there were no bad woman. The other woman must have known about ur partner at the time. Your not the first person to have an affair and you definately won't be the last. It's just human nature to be curious and to see if the grass is greener on the other side. Maybe you should have just looked over the fence first.
I always say it's ok to go window shopping as long as you don't open your purse.
If your ex partner loves you she'll put it behind her and see it as one of life's tests. It could even make your relationship stronger.
Give her time and I'm sure she'll have you back.( only if the other woman wasn't her best friend, sister or her mother that is).
2007-01-03 12:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it didn't "just happen"! You had to have given it some thought before you crossed that line. So I have a hard time believing you don't have a clue why you did it. For the excitement of doing something "bad"? Because you were flattered that another woman wanted you? Only you know why you did it. And I suggest you get into counseling to find out how not to destroy the next great relationship you might find yourself in. If your wife/gf is smart she will run as far and as fast as she can away from you!
2007-01-03 12:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by puter_patty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all weak in one way or another. You did not come on here to be judged and neither should you be. You have admitted your fault and you are looking for absolution from us. Well, you know we cannot give you that. Neither can your partner, in fact. Only you can forgive yourself. Only you can put this behind you, learn from it and move on, Do not spend time wondering why it happened - maybe there was a reason but more likely it was just circumstances and you should now look to the future and see if the bridges can be mended and things put to rights. Incidentally, it is not uncommon for relationships to survive affairs and in some cases be strengthened by them , so do not lose heart.
2007-01-03 11:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well there is your answer but i don't think that you are going to like it
you must have not loved this girl or even cared for her because if you did you would never have cheated on her. maybe you have got bored from the relationship or just wanted a new start and the only way out is by cheating and getting court.
the fact is that you have cheated on your partner that does make you in the wrong and you would need to forget about it and move on and learn from your mistake so that you don't do the same thing in the next relationship.
sorry that she had go through it but she needs to leave you and you need to leave her move on.
good luck mate
2007-01-03 11:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by musty118 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some emotional issues to deal with. Are you a habitual cheater? If every relationship in the past has included you cheating on the woman, then there is something wrong with you emotionally. Seek counseling/therapy to find out what it is and only then can you tell her.
2007-01-03 11:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To cheat on someone your supposed to love shows that maybe you didn't love her as much as you thought you did. And now that you have been caught you regret it. It doesn't take something like that to happen to make you realise you really do love her you should already know before something like that happens. Maybe there was something missing within your lives and ask yourself this........Whilst you were cheating did you feel any guilt at that time if you answer no then u didn't love her.
2007-01-03 13:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know why. You just are in such denial because you obviously got caught, or HAD to admit it beacuse of guilt or some stupid reason . Be honest with yourself, then maybe you can start to be honest with your poor wife. Who should dump your sorry ***, btw.
2007-01-03 11:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man has two spheres of existence. Love and lust.
Lust is devious and can often outsmart love in the male psychosis, by persuading it that fulfilling its urges won't do any harm. It's quite natural I believe, but should be controlled if it's going to be harmful to a relationship.
Good men have fallen foul of their lustful side.
2007-01-03 11:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I find men have affairs when they feel something is missing?
Maybe she wasnt paying you the attention you needed? Has she been neglecting you lately?? and you was flattered by the attention you got from this other woman??
Maybe it was your own ego getting the better of you...?? wanted to see if you still 'had it'
Boredom?? not ready for commitment?
could have been a number of things.
2007-01-03 11:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by kazimsgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋