He's currently over there himself. I don't really know the details but I think he might have been there when it happened. It’s breaking my heart, I feel so bad for him.
Does anyone have any good gift ideas or things that would keep his mind busy? Or that you think he might like? I would really like to do something to help. He won't really talk to me about it (understandable), and communication is very limited for him right now anyway. So I thought if I sent him some packages full of fun stuff that it might help...maybe not, but I want to do something & I don't know what would help most.
2007-01-03 11:42:36 · 14 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Send him the book "Flags of Our fathers" by James Bradley. It is the true story of the men that raised the flag on Iwo Jima. It is a very uplifting book about ordinary men in war.
2007-01-03 11:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
infant, i'm so sorry. Mine's having a no longer person-friendly time with that one too. I purely sent him a field crammed with random issues from residences, photos, a mag that I wrote him, some juice mixes & candy. I wasn't particular what to do the two. yet, the suited factor for him is to understand that your there & you will stay there & whilst he's waiting to talk he will. would no longer be right this moment or next month or perhaps next 12 months, yet i understand him & he will ultimately open up. limendoz - Marie's a miles nicer person then i'm, why do no longer you return under the rock you climbed out of. human beings such as you're making me ill. She's doing what she will. AND DOING much extra constructive a activity OF IT THEN maximum women human beings. what's incorrect with you besides?
2016-10-29 22:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not like you can just buy him happiness.. sorry to say this.. but have you ever lost someone close to you.. did it help you recieving gifts.. also talking to him about it probably isnt the way to go.. if anything it might make him sadder.. hell get over it in due time.. its something that all the soldiers go through at one time or another.. if he comes back and is still sad about the friend then i would suggest suggesting that he see a shrink
2007-01-03 12:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best gift to him right now is your continued love and support. Let him write or talk to you about his friend, ask questions, often when someone loses a loved one or friend they really want to talk about them. Gifts with fun items might help to occupy his mind, but don't go overboard on the "fun" or you may appear "callous" although your intentions are good. My condolences to your bf.
2007-01-03 11:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to learn this Marie. Just make sure you constantly reassure him that he has support here at home from you, your family and friends and the rest of us out here in cyberland. It may be of small comfort, but every little bit helps.
I know from my time in service, that I always enjoyed getting a taste of home in a letter or package. Little everyday things that I could not get where I was deployed. Favorite snacks, a cassette recording of family members, photos, small, allowable personal items, music from home, that sort of stuff. Can't specifically tell you what to send, you know what he likes but mainly, your love and support will help him through.
Send him our love and gratitude please.
2007-01-03 11:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Rich B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Send a care package, but no enforced fun items. A sympathy card, or a memory book : for him to write in the good memories he has of his friend. He may need to shut down about it , how else can he carry on..... don't force anything on to him, just let him call the shots......sorry to hear of your loss...
2007-01-03 11:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by mesmerized 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
first off, i have to say, the fact that you are waiting for him is a beautiful thing, he is lucky to have someone who will stay by him even if he is thousands of miles away, that in itself is probably the best thing for him is just to know you will be there for him when he comes back.
if you have the money to, and it is admissible where he is, i would send him something like a PSP or something like that (and you could upload a video of yourself to the 1g memory stick that comes with it.) with some games, those have a way of keeping the mind occupied.
2007-01-03 11:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only "gift" you can give this man now... is understanding. This was not like in a movie... it is not something he will just "get over"... THIS... is why there are no winners where war is concerned...
2007-01-03 11:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by iluvafrica 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe the best gift you could give him is a card and your continued support and love. God bless.
2007-01-03 11:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by SGT. D 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
send him pics of him having good times so he will forget about all the bad times. and you can also send him some junk food. boys always love some sugar
2007-01-03 11:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by brandon s 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋