A family I'm not especially fond of wants me to babysit their kid-who is a brat-I'm willing to see how it works out,the moneys good and I could probably be a positive force in the kids life... I'm not sure I even want to do it-but then there is my guy who is playing my daddy and rejecting any plans I have to earn cash-the reason I need a job is because my guy does nothing to help me get a running car-he doesnt want me to work or drive...even though I have to drive our daughter to school everyday(in my moms car)should I baby-sit for the money and teach my guy -he's not my boss or respect his decision and forget about babysitting?
2007-01-03 11:38:36 · 11 answers · asked by cassiepiehoney 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
funny policeguy- I said I want cash not crabs
2007-01-03 11:45:20 · update #1
I would tell him if he doesn't want you to drive then he needs to start taking HIS daughter to school, and HE needs to start doing the shopping. Otherwise he either needs to let you use the car or he needs to let you work so you can get your own. It's nice that he wants you to be a stay at home mom, but you do need some air once in a while. You're not a prisioner. Good luck.
2007-01-03 11:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake25 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, either you are going to be a Weak Woman, or a Strong Woman. I'm a 30 year old Beautiful Strong Woman, and here's how I see it.
You are in a situation where number 1, you aren't married to a man but yet he is dicatating how you should live your life. Number 2, he has already proven that you can not depend on him financially for anything. So, either you will sit back, not work, have no car, take the bus & walk everywhere, and stay poor while you let this broke man rule your life. OR, you will realize that you can make your own money, buy your own car, be your own woman, and make your own decisions and let No Man--especially some man who hasn't married you and cant pay your bills--run your life.
Either be weak, or Be Strong. Take your pick.
2007-01-03 19:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Victory 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound kind of young to let a man boss you around like that! If he doesn't want you to work...he should at least have the decency to give you a working car!...I mean come on now! Please do me a favor...and DO NOT let him play the role of "your daddy!"...my husband does that sometimes...and he ends up between a rock and a hard spot. If your "man" does not want to give you a working car...then...yes...I would tell him..."I need a car...and I am going to get a job!"...I mean...what is he going to do really...you live in a free country...and he is taking away your rights. Fight for what you believe in...and best of luck to you!!!
2007-01-03 19:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lynnie M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, these are two seperate issues. Do you want to work? If you do, then I'm sure you can find many people needing a babysitter. Or, if you want to just try it with this family and let them know up front that it's for a trial period.
I would be more worried about why your "guy" is wanting you to stay home with no wheels. what's that about? Is he worried you will drive off and leave him?
2007-01-03 19:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by kyletexas_123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't drive
don't go and make money
you have a little girl to support maybe once your out there making your own $$$,s
you can tell your man
do drive
do go and make some money
or do go away
someone needs to be responsible in this relationship it sound like it needs to be you
good luck with it all
2007-01-03 20:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by maisyn3m ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should drop your guy...he sounds negative....any fellow who wants you to be helpless and dependant on him...is bad news....as for babysitting a kid that you already know is a brat.....no money is worth it...it will be bad for you and the family......good luck with whatever you decide
2007-01-03 19:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that guy is acting as your father figure right now, you should respect his wishes and obey his decision. He's made that choice for a reason, and who knows, maybe a better job offer will come along. Best of luck!
2007-01-03 20:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by jennabeanski 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your Daughter is your first responsibility. If your man can't provide you and your little girl with transportation to school then he doesn't deserve your respect and he is not a man or a good father. Take care of your little one first girl!
2007-01-03 19:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes if you can get past your dislike of the mom and dad and be nice to the child then yes never let a man put you in a spot where you have to get everything from him
2007-01-03 19:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by teadropsue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1ST U NEED TO LET THE GUY KNOW THAT YOU GROWN, UNLESS HE WANTS TO TAKE YOU CHILD TO SCHOOL EVERY MORNING, I DON'T THINK HE REALLY HAS ANY SAY SO. I THINK HE'S TRYING TO KEEP YOU DOWN SO YOU'LL THINK YOU NEED HIM.
2007-01-04 09:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by tinaguhc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋