how can i tell if he's cheating?

Question

i just have a feeling that he is. some people that we're both friends with think that he might be cheating on me. i want to confront him about it but he'll probably think that i'm being paranoid or something. i really want to know. its like, killing me not knowing whether he's with someone else right now. how can i ask him or just find our whether he is or not?

he's been acting different towards me. he's been talking to his exs again. he knows i don't like her, at all. i want to trust him but its hard to.

Answer 1

well, first why do you think he is? Has his behavior changed? what tipped you off? 1st of all DON'T ASK. If he knows you are suspicious he'll only lie and hide it even more. there are many ways you can find out. You could bug his cell phone, his car, hire a private detective, follow him. You will probably find out for sure. But once you find out then what? I included and article for you that you can read. Maybe it can give you the answeres you are looking for. But honestly you should just ignore all of the above and find someone you can trust.

Answer 2

Your gut feeling usually is at least partially correct. What I mean is maybe he isn't cheating, but since you do have a bad feeling, something is off in your relationship (like clearly you don't trust him completely). Some obvious cheating signs include:

-He's acting distant or he's acting a little too nice. He isn't a flowers person but all of a sudden is bringing you flowers, being romantic, etc., trying new things in bed. He could be feeling guilty, and is probably in a better mood cuz of the new chick he's courting so he thinks he's superman, a womanizer etc.

-Taking calls in another room, getting defensive about everything, starting fights for no reason... he could be trying to get you to dump him or maybe he's just not good at leading the double life.

Basically whether he's cheating or not your relationship is in trouble since you clearly do not trust him. I don't recommend confronting him, but just have a sort of relationship discussion and let him know your fears. Cheating is no-win, like if you follow him and see he is with someone else you're hurt, and if you follow him and it's harmless you'll feel like crap for not trusting him. Talk to him but be aware he might be lying.

What makes you think he's cheating? Is it reasonable? Do you not know where he is, etc. or are you truly just being paranoid? Do these friends really know what's going on?

Answer 3

ONCE upon a time, your heart was at ease and all was well in paradise. Back then, your man made it clear that you were a top priority, regardless of what was going on in his world. So if he said that he would pick you up at 9:00 p.m., you knew to expect your doorbell to ring at 8:45 p.m. And if he said he was going to hang out with friends, you knew that he wanted you to be right there hanging out with him. And if he said that he was working late, you could always count on that phone call from the workplace, reassuring you that he was on his way home, and that he couldn't wait to sink his teeth into his favorite dinner and spend some quality time with you.

But now the tide has turned and something, you can't put your hands on it, is radically wrong.

His whereabouts are unaccounted for. Sudden nondescript "emergencies" are putting you and your needs on the back burner. The sex is different; his brief kisses and even briefer phone conversations have become empty consolation prizes for his absences and unfulfilled promises.

Answer 4

If you feel it, it most likely is happening. You know your mate better than anyone and thus, only you can really say if what he is doing is strange and suspicious activity. Women tend to have this keen sense about things, follow your gut. If he's not he won't get adjatated when you approach him, do not be accusing, just tell him how you're feeling and why you're feeling that way. It should lighten it up a little, but if he gets angry or defensive in any way he must have something to hide. Good luck.

Answer 5

ok well first off sad to say but most of the time when we feel something we ar usually right.

The first thing you need to do if figure out what he is doing that makes you feel that way. i.e. going outside to talk on the phone. leaving and not wanting you to go or know where he is going.

Then you need to calm down relax and become a private investigator ( thats what I call it.)

Learn his routine and figure him out. Know your man girl inside and out. know his moves before he even makes them. If he has a cell phone check it all the way in. get his pass code if you can go to his cell phone providers web site and view the call activity find numbers you don't know. call them from a pay phone or something anything that wont come back to you. if a girls answers thats sorta proof but not concrete enough that he is doing something next step. get his voicemail password. This can be tricky but if you got info on him you can change it. find out who calls him.
while he showers check his pockets.

I have went through some pretty deep stuff and I could tell you so many more things to do but honestly if you feel that something is wrong then something is wrong.

GOOD LUCK.

Answer 6

well if you ask him and his not that would be like you don't trust him at all.but if he is cheating on you then he would act like he isn't and be all kind to you and all of that.the only way you could find out is make some of the people you know and he doesn't look and see what his doing with out him finding out cause that would be bad on your part if he found lout u hired someone.i know because this has happened in my life about 3 or 4 times.

Answer 7

More than 80% of the time someone thinks their partner is cheating ... they are correct!

You can keep track of the mileage on his vehicle, whether he suddenly does not want you in the room when he's on the computer (or phone), puts a password on his email, etc. .....all of these are tale-tell signs.

Oh...least I forget...he may actually start accusing YOU of messing around on HIM. ...another big sign.

If he's guilty....kick his @$$ to the curb and find someone better!

Answer 8

usually if you feel he is, than it's probably happening. If you have a good relationship, just be open and honest with him and just come right out and ask. It's better to know now than later! Good Luck.

Answer 9

ask him. Flat out. say something to the effect of " If you'd rather be with someone else just tell me so we don't both end up looking like fools "

Good luck.

Answer 10

The sudden appearance of the oozing sores on his genetalia should provide all of the proof you need.