I'm seeing someone long distant, he called me but I was busy so didn't answer, bout 40mins later, I sent him a text saying "Hey, Call me. x" And I sent that text bout 8 hours ago and he hasn't called me. What's worse, I saw that he was online on MSN messenger and he didn't even send me a message. I know he got that text message, I'm supposed to be going down to see him on 19th Jan, thinking bout cancelling the whole thing to gain more respect maybe. What's he playing at? Does he want to be in control?! If he wasn't interested, he wouldn't have called me earlier on!.
Soz guys, but I don't hate men, it was to get your attention. Anywayz, he hardly calls me, he waits like, 3/4 days to get in touch and tells me he'll call, then doesn't. that's why I didn't answer. I feel that if I tell him what's on my mind, he'll think I'm insecure! or over-reacting!
2007-01-03 11:06:53 · 10 answers · asked by Jessica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should communicate your feelings to him. You should both be mature enough to stop the who calls who first games. If you are dying to hear his voice, call. Leave a sweet message to let him know that you were thinking about him. See what comes back. I am in a long distance relationship and in my opinion absence makes the heart grow fonder. That foundation has to be there first. You should be building the foundation while away on the phone and computer. You are not going to gain respect by canceling your trip without letting him know how you feel. Put it all out there and see how he responds. I agree that because you saw him signed in does not mean anything, he could have been away from the computer and just signed in. Communication is the key to making a relationship last. He might be trying to play it cool because he is not sure. Open up to him and hopefully he will do the same. If not, life is to short to be unhappy. This stage in the relationship is the perfect time to be who you are. If you bring it up and he feels like your being a drama queen that will let you know that you cannot be free to express yourself with him. Good luck!!
2007-01-03 11:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing you dear. Some men (and women) have a need to always be center stage. You hit the nail on the head when you said "Does he want to be in control?". That's exactly what he wants. He's not satisfied with one relationship when he can have two or three women waiting for his call.
Cancel the Jan. 19 visit. Tell him that you have too many things to take care of at home and want a raincheck. Then keep him guessing by not answering his messages. If you don't hear from him again you're lucky. If you do hear from him make sure that you are in control of the situation, not him. You are NOT over-reacting. You deserve better.
2007-01-03 11:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Johann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his busy. Heck, I have my messenger running all day, but I'm not always there. Maybe he had something to tell you earlier, like "Hey if you want to chat, chat now because I'll be busier later." But since you too were BUSY you guys lost a chance. Give him a chance, just ask him why he didn't talk to you before canceling anything.
2007-01-03 11:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he dont respect you, then why are you with him.
how long does it take to call and say im thinking of you,
im busy but just know im thinking of you.
it sounds like he is up to something.
how long does it take to send a text anyway.
2007-01-03 11:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by sharma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been able to make a long distance relationship work for me, it does not surprise me to see you having problems, I hope you can settle them soon. Good luck.
2007-01-03 11:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by bootjack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should find someone else. spend some time doing things on your own that you enjoy, then you won't be so dependent on others...
2007-01-03 11:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by cadillacrazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU treated him like this what would your actions show? Yes that your not that interested in him..SOOoooooo theres your answer
2007-01-03 11:13:22 · answer #7 · answered by barcan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a taste of his own medicine...when he calls set it all up and then don't show hehe :-) OR **** him really good and don't ever call him again. Thats what I would do.
2007-01-03 11:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should dump him because it sounds like, to me, that your a fine woman and he's not serious about you
2007-01-03 11:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by god_of_war 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump him.
2007-01-03 11:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋