How "far" should an unmarried couple go?

Question

This is a question mainly for religionists but if you're an atheist or Pagan or whatever have at it...

Some Christians argue that your first kiss should come at the altar. Others argue that as long as you keep your clothes on it's permitted. So, please state your denomination and tell me: how far can a couple go before marriage?

(My opinion: I believe that couple ideally should not even kiss before marriage *gasp*...BUT...a couple that does choose to kiss is probably fine as long as they refrain from sex and, um, fondling.

Wow WhoKnows...

From your picture it looks like your already well on your way!

Answer 1

I (and my church) believe in old fashioned ways and standards. We believe that a betrothed couple should not display any affection at all for each other in public. Other people should not be able to tell that they are courting. A man and women should never have any physical contact until they are married. Weddings at our church are so beautiful because it is the first time the couple is allowed to even touch each other. The wedding kiss is their first kiss. It's so wonderful!! The courting couple should never been alone together but should always have a chaperon. And they never ride alone in a car together. They not only need to not do any wrong but the Bible says that Christians should avoid all appearance of doing wrong. If they are never alone together no one can accuse them of doing wrong things such as touching or kissing.

I am an Independent Fundamental Baptist (IFB)

Answer 2

i'm. My better 0.5 and that i have been residing mutually for very nearly 5 years and characteristic 2 little ones mutually. We percentage all funds, we do not have someone money. If we were given married actual not something might want to replace except my very last call. we are not married because we believed there are different issues in existence extra significant than spending money on a wedding ceremony. Like little ones and a house etc. inspite of the indisputable fact that, when we do finally get married we do like it to be particular, so determined now to not merely get it performed on the courthouse. i do not understand, marriage merely hasn't been an challenge.

Answer 3

I'm not a Christian, I can't be considered an Atheist, I suppose I'm somewhere between a Neo-Pagan (Earth-spirit-God), Buddhist, Hindu, and Taoist. That being said, consider all religion aside, if you plan on getting married and spending the rest of your life with someone, it would make sense to make sure your sexually compatible before you go that far, Christian or not. You're in for a rough marriage if your tastes in bed just don't work out. Anything is acceptable in moderation as long as your careful.

Answer 4

I am Buddhist (formerly Catholic). I think if a couple loves each other, then having sex is fine, too be honest I would probably recommend it. Although marriage is definitely more than sex, let's face it, it is a big part. If you marry and find you are sexually incompatible, it can be disastrous (not always). Also, if after marrying you find your partner is frigid or impotent and you want to have a family, this can be a big problem. Don't get me wrong, I see nothing wrong with waiting until marriage, it is up to the couple. Each option has it's pros and cons.

Answer 5

I believe that a couple should explore every aspect of their relationship before marriage. There is far too much divorce. If you don't even know the person you're marrying, how can you know if that's the right person for you? What if you are a sexual dynamo and she is a cold fish? Do you want to hold onto that resentment for the rest of your life, or until you get divorced?

FP

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with a kiss.

1 Corinthians 16:20 All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss.

2 Corinthians 13:12 Greet one another with an holy kiss.

1 Thessalonians 5:26 Greet all the brethren with an holy kiss.

1 Peter 5:14 Greet ye one another with a kiss of charity. Peace be with you all that are in Christ Jesus. Amen.

Answer 7

Kissing is certainly never frowned upon in the bible. As far as I know, touching is not mentioned except if the male makes a mess or the female is bleeding. Nakedness is mentioned only in the context of seeing other mens' wives. So biblically you should be able to do more than just stare at each other.

No sex, though. It leads to dancing.

Answer 8

I am a Christian, and I have get to find anywhere in the bible that says not to have sex before marriage. If there is I missed it. Also you have to consider, that Saudi Arabia, is a much different culture than ours. There they stone people to death, just for kissing in public, even if they are married. It is my personal belief that sex before marriage is ok, as long as you are both consenting, and as long as you are both of legal age.

Answer 9

As far as they both feel comfortable going. This is a very personal choice; one in which I do not believe religion should play a part. Make sure that you are both emotionally ready, and go as far as that readiness can take you.

Answer 10

How far an unmarried couple should go is best determined by the mutual comfort level for both persons involved.