Today he tried to strangle his 3 year old sister. He is 7 he is very angry yells a lot and screams when I try to help him. He stabbed a kid in the arm with a pencil at school. I have had my kids taken from me once before and all of them put into foster care because of this problem they thought I was beating him so they took them away and gave them back after they put him on A.d.h.d medicine but he is still angry I have taken him to counselors he won't talk to them. Is he this way because of me? What should i do about this?
2007-01-03 11:01:33 · 13 answers · asked by mystic_rage879 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I hug my children every day my son is either with me or he is at school. That's it he does have a positive role male model my husband (not his biological father but he is a good person with alot of patience) I have tried to hold my son and he pushes me away sometimes or he kicks me.
2007-01-03 12:39:01 · update #1
Keep trying to find a counselor that your son can build a rapport with. This is not your fault, but you have to stay on top of this problem and do everything in your power to get it fixed. And never leave him alone with his sister or any other child or animal he could harm. Do research on the medicine he is taking for his ADHD and see what the side effects are, but keep in mind that manufacturer's don't always list all of the side effects they know about. Good Luck.
2007-01-03 11:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
violence is very comon act which is usualy reflected in the closest people round the kid. it is as counselors belive an act which is encouraged by something he have lived thrue and/or seen. also is very common to be a relfection of the kids fears. something in his life is wrong and he feels it so hard and just dont know how to deal with it. it is not a meather of understanding or explaining to him it is all about the feelings. counselors cant so much bring a person to its path as a parent can. for now as i belive he is very angry at the world and i am not sure is that because of you or mabye something he have seen or lived...i think that mabye you should send his sister away for some time and let him be with you all the time. let him destroy everything with his anger and soon when there will be nothing to destory and yet nobody will be angry at him and you will still love him i belive he will feel your love and even if he dont understand why he will know that his anger is bad and it makes him bad not you, start looking for peasfull cartoons dont take him to school. give your self a total pease. just you and him. i belive he will understand...good luck!!!
2007-01-03 11:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a doctor put him on meds for ADHD, he has a chemical imbalance. The good news is it's not your fault, the bad news is that it can be such a challenge. Ask the school councilor for a parenting book or class you can take. If your son won't go to counseling, you can go and get help for him. Very clear guidelines are important with immediate consequences. In my experiences, spanking will make the violence worse. You need to teach him how to handle his anger without hurting anyone. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-03 11:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by bibliobethica 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to be blunt but who is hurting your boy? Does he spend time with a male adult or teenager? Unless you have given birth to an actually evil person without conscience(it happens) then you have a child who is acting out due to abuse by someone and if it isn't you then who?
Do you hug your boy everyday and tell him how much you love him or do you yell at him to get away from his sister even if he isn't "doing" anyting to her? Did you forget you had a son when your daughter was born? My cousin did that, she locked the boy in his bedroom though he screamed and banged just so she didn't have to bother with him while she dressed her dolly girl...poor boy grew up with terrible behaviour issues and ended up in jail before the military...he's really just a killer in training.
You see there can be any number of reasons why your son is acting out. Do everything you can to show himm you love him and he can talk to yo about ANYTHING.
2007-01-03 11:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a bad paqrent. But if you ask my MOTHER-IN-LAW (stupid woman) she'll tell you he's been EXPOSED. Yes. EXPOSED. What the hell ever that means. I have four boys myself, 5-11, and they all beat the crap out of each other. I'm constantly worried about it and my husband says that boyw will be boys. So what I try to do on a constantly, daily, sometimes hourly manner is verbal praise. Praise everything they do that is not bad. I even go so far as to heap it on heavy when one will willingly share with the other, or they let someing go the others did. Its a constant battle, but love will win.
2007-01-03 14:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not necessarily. He may have problems within himself. Of course, it's hard to really help you on what you may or may not be doing that helps or hurts his actions without spending time around you and your son. First, I would pray for your son. He has anger somewhere in him. You also need to pray for the knowledge within yourself to help him. Don't give up on him, no matter what you do. It may also help if you start talking to a counselor, and maybe they can help you to help him, since he will not talk to a counselor. Good luck.
2007-01-03 11:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Denise D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If all the counselors can tell you is that he won't talk to them, you need better counselors asap. This could be caused by any number of things, and you really need to talk to medical and psychological professionals to find the root of the problem.
2007-01-03 11:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by InitialDave 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For being so young...your son has alot of anger built up. I would continue with the therapy. I don't feel that it is your fault...you might also need some help in controlling this child. I don't hear a father figure...in what you wrote...and you might be having a VERY tough time controlling him. It would be very beneficial for your son to have a male figure in his life...maybe a "big brother"...someone who could involve him in sports...like football...baseball...etc. This might curb his anger...or at least get his anger out in a more positive way!!
2007-01-03 11:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lynnie M 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
its not you, its the DRUGS. DID YOU HEAR ME ITS THE DRUGS!!!!!!!!!!!! kids on drugs for "adhd", which is a nonexistant problem invented to make more money for companies, are on AMPTHETAMINES, YES THAT IS RIGHT, SPEED. ANY 7 YEAR OLD ON SPEED WILL BE VIOLENT, BECAUSE HIS DEVLOPING BRAIN HAS NO IDEA HOW TO HANDLE IT.
so it is a REALLY simple solution >>>> no more drugs EVER.
i suppose in 7 more years you will try to convince him that "drugs are bad and dont take them", when you have him on speed for his whole childhood. wake up!
2007-01-03 15:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ADHD obviously either isn't the cause or the medication isn't working. It sounds like he has real anger management problems which may either be organic or behavioral in charge. He needs to see a specialist or two. A psychologist, who may refer to a neurologist if necessary.
He either needs counseling, medication or both.
2007-01-03 11:05:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋