I've been dating a guy. I liked him a lot and let him know I want to be bf/gf but he said he wants to keep it casual. I agreed and backed off a lot. I stopped emailing him as much, gave him space, but I kept getting together with him same as before. And then my ex-bf started calling on my cell all the time when I am with this guy and I think he is getting jealous. Then the other night he asks "So why do you want to be my girlfriend?" I kind of got nervous and started babbling. But does it sound like he has changed his mind?? Or maybe he just wanted his ego stroked?? What do you think? Thanks!!!!
2007-01-03 10:52:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, I would back off from him for a while --- doesn't sound like he has much self confidence!! Good God - he sounds like he is 12. Do you really want a relationship like that? Screw his ego -- if it has to be stroked to make him 'feel better', than you deserve a real man, not this POS.
2007-01-03 10:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a little bit of both; wanting his ego stroked and he probably has been thinking about changing the relationship to a different level. You have been doing well about backing off a little, just remember to keep things in perspective. Don't let this guy run over your heart because now he knows you want something more than frienship. If you two are friends, then keep it that way. Don't give him more than what he is willing to committ to. He can not have his cake and eat it too. When he is serious about going to another level, then you can give him a little more. Let the ball be in his court for a while and see what he does. If he is still indecisive then, you need to look else where. Guys like the "chase."
2007-01-03 19:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by YaYa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question... does he know your ex is jealous? Maybe all that drama is making him think hmmm maybe she's a catch if this other guy is so jealous. Maybe he does want his ego stroked a bit, or maybe he is interested. Obviously I can't tell since I'm not in your situation, but you should just give it some time. See what he does, like spend more time with him see if he asks you out, etc. Make him come to you, if he does then you'll know for sure what his intentions are.
2007-01-03 18:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he's thinking about it, but then also it sounds like he wants his ego stroked. Cause well when ur on the phone with ur ex boyfriend he probably figures that and doesnt think you want to be his gf as much. So to make himself feel better he can constantly ask you that same question over and over..but in end not do anything. The only thing I can tell you is just ask him what the deal is, cause you dont want to be wasting your time with this guy and next thing you know you missed your chance with another guy who probably would treat you better than the previous one..good luck!!!
2007-01-03 18:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Angelia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋