...my partner to talk about how he feels about stuff? hes always been made to feel he's boring and/or his opinion doesnt count to the point where he now finds it really hard to express himself..how can i help him?
2007-01-03 10:33:57 · 16 answers · asked by serephina 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he needs to help himself by getting some therapy or something. That said, few men spend a lot of time talking about their feelings; that's what makes them men.
2007-01-03 10:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can Do Something Very Simple Like What He Likes For Pizza or a Party and Start Out Slow. Make Every Thing Count He Says and show that is was a good idea. If It was Bad Dont say it blunt break it slow and show zap his mind to make him think of better ways. Say You Care About What He thinkgs Too. G-luck
2007-01-03 10:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by ATMAFIA09 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell him that you do value his opinion and let him come to terms with it. Then just keep asking him questions (not all the time, though) and make sure he gives you an answer.
But be warned, you are opening the box, and if he does say you bum does look big in that outfit, you can't complain about it.
2007-01-03 10:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very patient and loving, showing that what he thinks really does mean a lot to you. And that no matter what you are going to Love him.
Love is the answer to all questions, trust is the foundation all relationships should be built on.
God Luck and have a Blessed new Year !
2007-01-03 10:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by Bridget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought of telling him what you have told us? I think the fact that you alone have recognised that the people in his life seem to put him down might be enough to encourage him to stand up to this more and value his own oppinion and know that you are supporting him??? By the way this is not pul its a female perspective!
2007-01-03 10:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him feel he is the best and get his self esteem up. I know from experience that people tend to feel more confident about themselves when you compliments them for every good thing they do or say.
So take time to abserve all the good things about him and highlight, lay emphasis on them.You want him to be positively confident about himself.
Practice telling him that he is good as he is and go from there really. i hope this helps GL
2007-01-03 10:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by luv4life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep talking to him tell him about your stuff how you feel and see if he feels the same then in time bring in someone who has the same ideas as you and get him to talk more about the things that he finds interesting its going to be hard but to me its all to do with confidence good luck but make it fun to talk to each other
2007-01-03 10:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by jimc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can keep asking him questions about how he feels on different issues and you can also ask him questions about things he has done in his past. If you are genuinely interested, your partner will pick this up and he will begin to believe that you are interested in him. Eventually, he will begin to open up to you. You don't need to coax him out of his shyness, just ask open ended questions and show genuine interest.
2007-01-03 10:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to do a couples counseling or something of that kind, to help show him that communication is a good thing.
Do not push too hard though you may get a negative response.
2007-01-03 10:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by milky_cali_one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be encouraging but not too much as this can be off putting and get his opinion of something he is interested in this should break the ice
2007-01-03 10:36:30 · answer #10 · answered by julie t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋