I recently got in contact with an old friend, me and him have always been very close, we have great chemistry. I found out that he had broken up with his ex of 5 years. When we started talking again it had been about 5 months since then. We hit it off and talked every single day for hours and hours..this went on for about 3 months..we hung out even though he lives in another state and it was great..no we never slept together, he said he wanted to take things slow.
He actually started looking for jobs to move where I am because he confessed that he liked me a lot..then he tells me that his ex texted him and he wished he could change his number, he told me he was over it and i had nothing to worry about..i didn't sweat it but told him i dont want to get hurt and freaked out!
He then told me he was going away with his parents and 2 days prior to that he stopped calling me!!! I havent heard from him even though I've called, emailed. He gets back from his trip Sunday...what happened?
2007-01-03 10:25:16 · 12 answers · asked by Sweet Surrender 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hope he hasn't been in an accident. I hear your panic. I think you need to sit back and wait for him to call, although I wonder if he hasn't returned to his ex and that going to his parents was an excuse for a re-acquaintance. He may be in a state of limbo either way, so kick back and let him do the chasing.
As my grandmother said, "if he is meant to be yours, he will find you even if you are under a bushel".
You are worth more!
2007-01-03 10:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by D N 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are maybe placing more importance on this relationship than he is - which is not to say that it is dead in the water. He just needs some time and space - 5 months is not a long time to get over a long term relationship. Do not pressurise him in any way - he has been good enough not to involve you in anything too complicated for the moment while he sorts himself out. Respect this and let him come to you when he is ready.
2007-01-03 18:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cold feet maybe. Things happening too fast- he wanted to take things slow, yet you were on the phone for hours and hours every single day, hanging out, talking about him moving to be near you. Maybe he needs a rest from all this. Who has time to talk on the phone every day for hours and hours. I'd give it a break and let him get in touch. Take a breather and slow down.
2007-01-03 18:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Could be any number of things. Wait until he gets back in touch. Don't freak out again, or grill him like he's under police interrogation. Let him tell you his story. A few lines into it you'll be able to decide if he should tell it walking!
Good luck.
2007-01-03 18:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
REBOUND CHICK
He wanted her back the whole time. She broke up with him and he used you until he could get her back. She'll break up with him again, and hopefully next time you'll realize that you're swimming in too small a pond. There are 6 billion people in the world. Move on.
2007-01-03 18:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this...but it sounds like he used you as an emotional rebound. The time he normally invested into her, he probably has been substituting it with you. I hope I'm wrong for your sake, which I may be....but if he has reconnected with his ex...he's probably feeling guilty and avoiding talking with you. I really hope I'm wrong....I mean it may have something to do with his parents trip...try to be patient and not jump to conclusion...but listen to your instinct....most women have a really good intution about those things.
2007-01-03 18:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by angelistic_flirt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its only been a short time. his cell phone could be dead with no way to recharge. and its possible there is no internet access where he is. espescial with the winter weve been having. be patient. good things come to those who wait.
2007-01-03 18:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by ... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
his problem was probably simply he didnt want to start a new relationship after breaking up with his old cuddle buddy. just keep talking to him. you never know when he'll want to be 'more than friends'.
2007-01-03 18:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by DeanB 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
guess he needed space to think.....he will get in touch wid ya soon as he gets your email.
2007-01-03 18:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he still might not be compleltely over his ex or he`s just too busy...my guess is that he is just too busy
2007-01-03 18:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋