Christians, For those of you who believe that pre marital sex is a sin and not allowed to remarry If you dont?

Question

have premarital sex, waiting for when your married, Once you marry then get divorced, since you are not allowed to remarry or fornicate, do you stay single for the rest of your life?
Yes i know no one is perfect and please dont come out with Jesus died for our sins so it doesnt matter.

so booellis, Why are you picking and choosing? it was good for them but not for you? I love it how some christians prefer the nowadays to the back in the dark ages. It could be said the same for homosexuals then eh?

Lets get one thing clear, i'm not a Christian ok.

Answer 1

no thanx, I don't want sex from you. your avatar is hot but you look mean!

Answer 2

This is true for only a small portion of Christian denominations' beliefs, and mine is not one of them. Everyone makes mistakes and one cannot predict what might happen further down the road once married, so, for those who say you must say single & celibate once divorced, I want you to show me in the Bible where it says those exact words.

I am divorced and not because I wanted to be. I believe there are a few deal breakers in any relationship - I call them the 3 A's of marriage destruction, and those are Adultery, Addiction and Abuse. Mine dissolved due to all 3, so now I must remain single and celibate? See, these are the ridiculous self-righteous ideals that make so many turn their head and throw up when even the thought of religion or Christianity in particular, is mentioned. Like Catholics - where in the Bible does it say one can no longer worship God or be a "member" of one of your churches if they get divorced? I know so many people who have been "kicked" out of the Catholic Church because of these things and that is just not what God's Love is all about. These "rules" are man-made and imposed, and man has apparently made themselves the ultimate Judge as well, which again, was never written anywhere in the Bible.

What it does say is Jesus died so that our sins would be forgiven and we be able to enter the Kingdom of Heaven. We ALL will meet Judgement Day, however that may come, and no man-made church, set of their own ideals, or "rules" some people like to place on fellow humans will have a vote.

Gizelle K: Not my point, and furthermore, I do not believe in those man-made rules imposed by a select group of religious followers. There is nothing in the Bible which states any of these "rules" mortals speak of, therefore, my particular Protestant denomination does not agree, nor do we lend an ear to such nonsense. God is not the kind of Father some perceive Him to be and it is ridiculous to try to impose these "rules" on people just because they choose to be believers. As humans, we do not have the right or the power to dictate these things and it really bothers me as a Christian that I get lumped into the same category with the man-made Christians because this is WHY people hate our religion.

AMEN, debj69121. You were able to say it more eloqently than myself, but that was my point. Thank you. I'd give u 10 pnts but it's not my question ;-)

Answer 3

I don't believe that all sins are equal. I think when we are living our lives it is very dangerous to justify seemingly minor things by saying, it is just a little lie- at least I did not doctor the books at Enron or anything. That kind of thinking can lead you down the wrong road. Little things lead to big things. Yes Premarital sex is a big sin- is it as bad of a sin as Rape- not by any means. Is it still wrong? Definitely. Should it be punished the same way rape is? Not by a long shot. One is consentual one is not. The one that is not is in a different ball game. I don't know how to explain it, but I do know that each sin has different consequences. I also think that each sin has different consequenses from the Lord depending on the understanding of the person involved. A young child should not be held to the same standard as an adult because, their understanding is different, but the same things that are wrong for an adult are wrong for a child. Likewise a believer will be held to a higher standard than the non-believer, because the believer had the knowledge and turned his back on it, where the non-believer did not have that same knowledge. It really is complicated. Just don't sin and you will be ok. I don't know if I make any sense or not- but there it is. It always sounds better in my head.

Answer 4

well, common sense + being a christian but not really knowing all that the bible has said regarding sex and marriage:

i think that it is best not to have premarital sex, but it does not mean u should be a shamed person or punished if u did have it. when you get married, it's Gotta be a Real Decision, making VOWS to someone. this is so important, and therefore worth it to use the dating period to figure out if this person is right for you. when u are married, work as hard as u can to keep it together, to make each other happy. if one person or both are not doing their jobs, the marriage can fail, and divorce can occur.

For example, the bible says "Man, honor your wives, and Woman, submit to you husbands". this cannot happen UNLESS both man is honoring his wife and woman submits to husband. it does not mean "women be his slave", and "men treat her however u want". it is a give and take, a working of 2 partners who have different roles in the relationship. if something is not right, and cannot be fixed, people get divorced.

i don't think it appeals to Common Sense to say "oh, even if u are abused, u can't get divorced. or if u do, u can't ever be married again". Jesus and the bible were not here to condemn, punish, or make us feel like Crap. it's here to guide us, and teach us love, humility, respect, Right from Wrong. listen to ur heart.. when u think about it, deep down common sense is Exactly what the bible teaches. it advises u what can lead you to temptation, evil thoughts and acts, it doesn't say "IF U THINK THIS, U ARE GUILTY". it is the interpretation that can muddle us up sometimes, that's all. good luck~

Answer 5

I want you to realize that Christians can remarry. I get so upset at people thinking that divorce is the unforgivable sin. It is not -REJECTING CHRIST IS! I do know what you are going through. 24 years ago (soon to be 25) I met and fell in love with love of my life. He had been divorced around 7 years and had no children from that marriage. The Pastor of the church at that time believed that divorced people could not remarry never mind the fact that the church was made up of mostly remarried couples. Talk about taking a stand! As far as premarital sex, again it is wrong but not the unforgiveable. Don't let people play God in your life and don't let them use the guilt trip either. You let God be God in your life and realize that He loves you no matter what and when we mess up He still takes care of us.

Answer 6

Adultery is voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse (dic.com). Fornication is also a term for premarital sex which refers to any sexual activity between consenting unmarried partners (wiki).

Hebrews 13:14 Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.

1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee from fornication. Every other sin that a man may commit is outside his body, but he that practices fornication is sinning against his own body.
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In case of divorce involving adultery,the innocent party is allowed to remarry...since the guilty one has had his other partner.

Answer 7

There is no such thing as Christian divorce. Divorce is a civil matter. So, unless you have reasons for an annulment, either civil or religious, then in the eyes of God, one would still remain married after a civil divorce. You would still live a celibate life toward other people, and by choice (at least one of the spouses), you would live celibate with them. A good reason to not enter into a marriage hastily, or haphazardly.

Answer 8

To hjfr27; all three you mentioned are scriptural grounds for divorce even if only 1 has happened but since adultery is involved then you can remarry.

Someone emailed me that the Catholic church considers being married under a judge only and not in their Church as fornication. But why do they require being married first by a judge then? The secular marriage is legal in God's eyes as it is for man...i think Catholic Church wedding is wasting much money (and church gets paid too).

Answer 9

Actually what the Bible says is that divorced Christians can not remarry unless and until adultery enters into the equation. For excample if you got divorced because your spouse cheated than you can remarry. But you can also remarry if your ex starts sleeping with someone else after the divorce.

The reason for this is that in God's eyes you are still married (even after your divorce is final) until someone commits adultery.

Answer 10

These are rules made up by the church. And, I would never let a church tell me what to do. They just want control of people.

The main thing I can say about no pre marital sex is that it would be very sad to find a very good sex partner, and then marry someone who was not good at it, and maybe would never be good at it.

And, people remarried all the time in the Bible---------what right does the church have to condemn it?

Answer 11

I don't know if your trying to be smart or not but there are far worse things that you could do so I don't think that God would be as mad as you think. Of course he wouldn't be happy with this but We live in new times and a lot of things changed once Jesus came. It's the same as sacrificing; it's says in the bible to do that but that too was changed after Jesus came.