My sister is caught between two people. She loves her boyfriend who treats her right, would do anything for her, understanding, tall, good looking, successful that I see as an older brother for the past 8 years vs someone that is shorter than her that she apparently has a connection with when she has problems with her boyfriend. I would hate to see her lose such a good guy, but I know my sister has to live with her decision. I want to get involved, but I feel its a choice I can not get into. I just don't think her boyfriend deserves what's going on either, b/c I secretly know he plans to propose too and it would break his heart.
2007-01-03 09:31:37 · 23 answers · asked by Need Answers 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This situation involves your sister and two men. Not you. I know you are her brother, but, you can't make decisions for her and you can't live her life. The only thing you can do is honor her decision as her brother and wish her well. If she makes the "wrong" choice, be there for her she will need your support. Now, IF she asks for your advice, then and only then you have the right to intervene and give your input.
2007-01-03 09:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister makes the wrong choice she will have to live with the consequences. One question if they have been together for 8 years how come they are not married? Maybe you sister should leave regardless.
2007-01-03 09:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by reggae superstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get involved as it is your sister's decision. I agree that she isn't treating her b/f appropriately especially since they have been together so long and must have discussed the future since he is close to proposing.
I hope everything will work out with the b/f because he sounds so right for her.
2007-01-03 09:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by D N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister`s boyfriend seams a really good guy, but like you said , the choise is not yours ... try to sit back and whait for her to take a decision, if she chooses the other guy , then try to chear him up .. he probably deserves best, and pas the moment ...
and your sister , like you said , she will just have to live with her decision.
and then again maby she will stay with her boyfriend and you`ll be a the best man at the weading...
2007-01-03 09:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Alex M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you.I think you should get involved!!ask your sister if she is really able to give up 8 years?She needs to somehow get jealous.Maybe have someone go out with your soon to be brother.
That's what helped me.I have a wonderful man in my life.I left him for someone who could never compare to him.I seen that he was
going out with another girl.I was so jealous,that I knew what I was missing.Hope everything works out and they get married!!
2007-01-03 09:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You be candid about your opinion. She needs to hear your thoughts in the matter, and it might help her with her decision. Then whatever decision she makes, you respect it. Support her through whatever happens to her. Your sister will always be your sister.
2007-01-03 09:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think obviously go with the taller one. Tall people rule! Seriously though, sounds like you're more than a little biased, but from your description, the tall one's better.
2007-01-03 09:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by monger187 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, you're right about not getting involved. She has to make her own choices, even if it's clear to everyone else that they are wrong. Only become involved if she asks you for advice.
2007-01-03 09:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by VirtualElvis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your sisters decision, stay out of it. It's always nice to have an opposite sex friend to bounce stuff off of because it's so frigging hard to figure out the opposite sex sometimes.
Give you opinion if asked, otherwise, butt out.
2007-01-03 09:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same situation as your sister is ,i can only say it is heart breaking ,i have a wife, who loves me beyond belief, and would do any thing for me...
but i have very strong feelings for some one who ive had an affair with who would not walk in my wifes shadow
but she excites me beyond belief
as a couple we have been married for 27 yrs,, and boredom does set in,
so i know where your sister is coming from,, but you dont,,,
so you will not be able to under stand her feelings,
or what lies deep in her heart ,,all i can say is love,, and be there for her,,, but dont try to understand,,who ,,what ,,or why ,,for her, its
her life,, her heart ,she,must make her own mind up be it good or bad ,,but it is her heart not yours ,again i say love her and stand by her decision
2007-01-03 09:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by roy m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋