Ok so there is this girl, I really like her, and I'm almost 99.9999% positive that she still likes me. When we first realized we like each other, we hung out and hooked up for like a week untill i asked her out, we did that for like another week or two, and then she tells me that "dating me wasnt what she thought it would be like and she wanted to be friends with benefits" since then however i haven't really seen any of these benefits, and i would love to know if there is a way that i could convince her to date again, or at least if i could figure out what her issue is...any help is welcome
2007-01-03 09:21:26 · 20 answers · asked by blckgold91 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I, being a woman, am telling you that she just isn't into you. You wanted more than she is willing to give and ......she's moving on.
You need to ask her what her issues are and listen to what she says: Really listen, not just hear what you want to hear. She tried to break it off delicately.......but you persist in seeing what you want to see. It may hurt to hear what she says but it is better than getting bogged down in hopes and dreams just to have them dashed at a later date.
If the issue is what you were like in bed, then ask her what you can do to improve. Getting a book to read couldn't hurt.
If she says you were too possessive, learn to back off a bit and give her breathing room.
I still say she's moved on.
But above all, ASK her!
2007-01-03 09:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by grandma's spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a sorta similar situation. We dated and then he just wanted a casual thing. I don't think he was with anyone else, and I surely wasn't. The thing is, I loved him 2 much 2 not mean anything 2 him. The question u need 2 ask urself is how much u r willing 2 take. U will know in ur heart when u've had enuf of being next 2 nothing and move on. I realized that a few months ago and m still trying sooo hard 2 let go. Hopefully it will b easier 4 u. Good Luck
2007-01-03 17:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like its not her issue but yours maybe you didn't satisfy her enough, maybe plan out a way nice date and show her what shes missing by being just friends. I'm thinking she asked to be just friends with benefits as a nice way of breaking up if she hasn't put out sense then? but in don't know only suggestion again is to show her what you got don't hold back this time go all out to impress her.
2007-01-03 17:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by bestadvice101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could talk to this girl and find out why she did not want to date you, and find out how she feels and why and then tell her how you feel and why. If talk to her you are bound find out why. If she has any issues that you want to know about ask her, if it is too personal then don't pursue it. Whatever benefits she is referring too, has to be good, if you still don't find out then ask her what she is talking about. Tell her that you would like if she would consider dating you again and if she accepts the offer then, there you go. if not then it was clearly not meant to be.
2007-01-03 17:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to her?
What did she "envision" dating you would be like? How far was it from reality? Were you a bump on a log or did you make an effort? What is she expecting?
Have you thought about this?
Do you want to be with her or are you just afraid of being alone?
2007-01-03 17:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by flimflan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you really that alone? suprise her move away for a week then you'll know if she's real or not .people sometimes just aren't meant to be together and trying to force things is lame.someone better will come along you'll see be patient and pray for some one who likes what you do.ask here why theres no harm ask her to be straight
2007-01-03 17:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to go back, she dumped you, she went out with you and it wasn't what she excepted, at least she let you know, oh you want to know what the benefits are, you can drive her around when ever her boyfriend is not available, you can fix things for her when her boyfriend in not available, oh yes you can come over and change her *** filled sheets when the boyfriend is not available, get the picture, move on!!
2007-01-03 17:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just confront her and ask her whats up. And if she says that she doesn't like you that means she never did. Because when a girl says that she just wants to be friends then she just doesn't want to be with you at ALL!!!
2007-01-03 17:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly that
Trust me
make her answer right there...no beating around the bush
Ask her is there something wrong that you did?
Is there something that wrong with you loving her?
Why does she not love you?
Let her know that you want to be in her life
Let her know that she is your everything
and that you'd do anything to make her happy...
just have her tell you what it is...
Good Luck To You
Ave Satanas Eterna
2007-01-03 17:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by Clown Luv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm, sounds like you need to get over this one. From what you told me she is not going to return and even if she does it wouldn't last.
2007-01-03 17:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by mikearion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋