My fiance has so many friends whose weddings he was the best man in and wanted to include as many as he could in our wedding party. The priest allows 8 attendants on each side, we talked him into 9! However, I have two brothers and wanted them to play an important part in our wedding. I planned on having my brothers walk me out, we'll meet my dad, he'll walk me down the isle while my brothers walk behind us. This way I feel that the 3 important men in my life are giving me away to the man I am marrying. Does this sound doinky (dumb) or does it sound sweet? What do you think?
2007-01-03 09:10:57 · 41 answers · asked by aquari-kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
that actually sounds really nice to me. I didn't want to leave my mom out of my special day so I got her and my dad to walk me down the isle...it was really nice and meant a lot to me in the end...good luck and remember to have fun on your wedding day...NO PRE-WEDDING JITTERS ALLOWED!!
2007-01-03 11:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may want to reconsider having your fiance's friends in the wedding party and have your brothers in there somewhere. Think about it this way, will his friends be a part of your marriage or just your wedding? Your family will be a part of the holidays, new traditions, birthdays, etc. Most people don't keep in touch with those friends that are in the wedding. Good luck and congratulations.
2007-01-03 09:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you involve your brothers another way, like doing readings or something like that? If you are Catholic they could "carry up the Gifts," or they could do something else involved with the ceremony...
Do you really feel your brothers have been like parents to you? I really think only parents or people who have acted in the role of parents (stepparents, godparents, etc) should be in this aisle-escorting role. But in the end, it's your choice.
BTW, it is weird that your priest is putting that 8 person limit. I have never heard of such a thing. Really I'd say just add your brothers to your side of the wedding party would be one good solution.
Also, remember it is spelled AISLE.
2007-01-03 19:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, it sounds like it'll be crowded up in front! 3 people to give you away? That's waaayy too many. But hey it's your wedding and you asked for opinions.
I'd reserve that special honor to your DAD since he's still alive. He's the one who is 'losing' his baby girl. You could always have your brothers involved in the wedding in another way. They could be ushers to seat people.
Anyway, I have heard of brothers giving their sister away. My friend had her 2 older brothers (they were twins) give her away. One had each arm. Their dad had died some years before, so she chose her 2 brothers. Made sense since her dad was dead.
Anyway, Good luck to you. I sincerely hope you have a great marriage. That's the most important thing.
2007-01-03 09:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Just me. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it could be cool, but having them walk behind you is kinda weird, because no one will see them aftey you... Your the main event... What about having them walk down the isle right before you walking your mom down, that way the 4 most important people are walking down... just because they are not groomsmen doesn't mean they can't be in the wedding. They can wear the tux like everyone else and walk down right before you, that would be sweet!!!!
2007-01-03 09:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds sweet and I don't think there is anything wrong with that. All weddings are unique and besides you can do whatever you want its your wedding. When I got married my mom walked me down the aisle since my father is no longer living. Some people thought it was weird but who cares what other people think.
2007-01-03 09:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by valerie_lynn82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds really sweet and it shows your brothers how much you care about them. Dont let anyone tell you not to b/c i think it is a really good idea and i would do the same if my brothers could not be in the wedding
2007-01-03 09:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by girlconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sweet or depending on how long the isle, each one can stand down the isle starting off with your brothers and ending with your father
2007-01-03 09:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by Tia Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is supposed to be your day..make it as you'd like... If not you can't redo it, and have regrets..So yeah, have your brothers walk u down the aisle w/your dad, you'll be glad u did, or if you want you could always find other jobs for them to do that will assist you, and make your wedding wishes come true...
2007-01-03 09:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are the bride, it's your day, and you deserve the best. I think it's a wonderful idea. I've known most people to have their father and uncle walk them down, or even both their parents. It's your wedding, you set the rules. Have your father hold your hand, and the brothers walk behind you. That's a great idea. Congrats!
2007-01-03 09:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Caramel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I love it! What an amazing way to show all three of them how much they mean to you! Another way to include the brothers would be to also have them read a scripture during the ceremony and to ask them to give a toast either at the rehearsal and/or the reception!
congrats!
2007-01-03 09:19:59 · answer #11 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋