How to solve the conflict that happens when parents having different ideas in raising kids?

Question

My spouse doesn't want to let our son driving when he is 16 years old. I go for it. What should we do? Thanks!

Answer 1

Conflicts can only be solved if you show total unity between you two...after reading all the pros and cons about the issue in hand...decide and stick to it.and show your son you are agreed and united....Personally i think its OK as long as its legal, supervised,and you have taught your son to be responsible for his actions..Life is fun.....enjoy it( but with responsibility)
GOOD LUCK!!!!!...and safe driving dude...lol

Answer 2

I think 16 is to young to drive by themselves , what you can do is teach him how to drive and let him drive with either you or your husband and that way he will get experience and be ready to drive by himself in a year or too.. Just be aware that as soon as he get a Drivers license insurance will go UP !!! So talk k to your husband and don't figth about it, not because everyone is driving at 16 he has to do it too.. There has being lots of accidents of kids under 18 that think that the world is just for them and star drinking and driving and running over the limit on the streets.. So it will not hurt your kid to wait a year or 2 and drive alone... Good luck hope you get on a mutual agreement ...

Answer 3

Well, Driving is a privilage not a right. If your kid has great grades and helps pay for the insurance and follows the new rules of times he is allowed to drive? It think dad is right.
If your child is a bad student who lack personal and parental respect then he does not have the privilage to drive. Use this for the grades mom it works. My kids is honor roll, or she does'nt ROLL , Ha I made a funny. Sorry . I know you are concerned, but think back to when we adults started to drive. I was 15 and I have never had an accident. The question is, "Is our child responsible, or irresponsible"? Then you both have your answer.
Best Wishes

Answer 4

talk to your spouse and go to Driver ED with him! i do agree that at 16 they are too immature to be in control of a vehicel... BUT
Here in Australia we have to go through levels 1st Learners- can only drive with a fully licenced driver next too you and your speed limited. 2nd Red P's - don't need someone with you but speed limited. 3rd Green P's- don't need somone with you and not speed limited except on free ways. and then you have your full licence the whole process takes about 3 years and starts at 16!
I am 24 have 2 children and am still at stage 1 because my mother wouldn't let me drive.
there comes a stage when you have to let your kids grow up. you don't want to be a taxi service all their life :) Good luck i hope this helps.

Answer 5

I won't let my kids drive at 16, or ride in cars driven by teenagers. I think 16 is to young for most kids to handle to responciblity. A permit, and driving with me or their mother in the car at 16, no problem. I want my kids to learn responciblity first. I'll buy their first tricycle, bicycle, and I'll go halfs with them on their second bike. But if they want a car they are going to have to earn it themselves and prove that they are responcible enough to have a drivers lisence. And even if I think they are, they can still wait till they are 18. That's the problem with parents today. They want to give everything to their kids and their kids never grow up. Work and responcibity is learned. Your kids will never learn either if you give them every thing. They'll expect you to do it for the rest of their life.

Answer 6

Well, I guess the important thing is that you don`t argue in front of your kid. You should respect your wife`s opinions in front of your kid.
As for the question itself, I guess it would be ok for him to drive. However, I`m sure your wife must have some reasons why she doesn`t want him to drive. So, establish some ground rules regarding what bothers her and if he breaks them, he can`t drive anymore. Basically, meet her half way...

Answer 7

I agree with your spouse. Most of the time, 16 is not mature or responsible enough.

Answer 8

Why not??? THat is what every 16 yr old dreams of? Shes one of those shelter parents isnt she?? how is your kid supposed to function in 2 years (18) if you dont teach them or let them do anything??

Answer 9

teenagers always want to do things that adults do but before that l'll check on my sons charactor see how he behaves discipline and so forth before l allow him to drive if not so he has to wait to be 18.Although the law alows it u also have to do ya home work to secure ya child.