How do you move on from someone that once meant a lot to you - even if they hurt you and you still cared about that person. Does that make me self-destructive to miss someone who hurt me and obviously never cared about me?
2007-01-03 08:52:17 · 30 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look Richard you must think this question is aimed at you..... and I DO LOVE my husband - it is possible to care about more people than just your spouse you know...
2007-01-03 09:16:41 · update #1
That's easy.....you just go back to your husband, which you supposedly "really love" anyway.
2007-01-03 09:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
That is a tough one. I know you are hurting. You did not say how old you are, but maybe (and I know this sounds simple) you could cultivate friendships and/or hobbies. The more that you are involved with people/hobbies, the less time there will be for you to think about that person. Who knows? You may meet someone who makes you forget about that person. But before you go looking, get to know yourself more. Don't just jump into another relationship. Learn to entertain yourself now because at some point in your life you may be alone due to death of a spouse.
2007-01-03 16:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by mountaindew25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been about 2 years since I lost someone I cared about a lot. I still think about this person pretty much every day... but I am not as hurt as I use to be. I've come to realize that the only way to replace the hurt of not having this person in my life is to find someone else that I am even more in love with. That has not happened yet...
2007-01-03 16:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by Matt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say time. I've just recently had somewhat of the same thing happen to me. I've already thought I was over it/him several times but then something would happen and I'd start thinking of things related to him something he did or something he liked. I know this sounds completely lame..but in all honesty I know its only normal. You're not self-destructive; you're just like the rest of us. It'll take time and probably a little bit more time. But when that time is passed you'll likely be better for it because if he doesn't care enough to even bother to come around and see you anymore or say bye or tell you 'I just don't care' or 'I only liked your body'.....oops I think I started talking to myself. BUT anyway I'm sure your better off without him. Look at it this way one down in your path to great love...but don't be afraid to be a little bitter and through popcorn on the kissing kids at the movie theater. Its your Life now not his. Love yourself and I wish you the best.
.....and kungfu guy has a point with the quick crush.....it helps to think of someone else.
2007-01-03 17:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by rainsparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone knew the secret answer, they would be a millionaire, my friend its a hard road, a road that ive recently travelled and still on its been over a year for me, and it still haunts me, i was with this girl for 12 years, and it was a slap in the face,indescribable pain there is really no real answer, i found comfort in working out alot, and really focusing on my job and my body i met someone else and she is wonderful, but it doesnt take the pain away from what you have lost so keep your head up and dont pay any mind to the insensitive ******* that leave you a crappy answer trying to be funny just try to listen to upbeat music and find solice in friends, true friends, not those misery needs company ones, they will keep you down look up
2007-01-03 17:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by waterboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look carefully at your question. He never cared about you? If that's true, then you had a one-way relationship, if there was anything that could be called a relationship. You are your own person; learn to love and honor yourself, accept yourself without judgment. You are the best friend you'll ever have. Acknowledge your greatness. And, if some guy doesn't recognize how wonderful you are, then you don't want to deal with him because he is blind and ignorant and unfeeling. Recognize yourself as truly great. As far as getting over someone, one suggestion that seems to work is to immerse yourself in a bunch of dating with a wide variety of guys. Good luck.
2007-01-03 16:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no it makes you human you cant help loving and missing a rogue that has hurt you after all you gave him your greatest gift your heart and he has cast you aside
Lost love is a memory. when its right there in your face its pain like no other and as a human for some reason we need to feel that pain ,so we hold onto it a while , just to know we will be alright after it subsides and you will be OK in time the memory will fade and some one will fill the void left by this person who hurt you , and once again there will be love and laughter .
I hope you can smile soon .
2007-01-03 17:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now... Find yourself. See, when you're in relationship, become intimate, share hopes and dreams, then you and your partner becomes "one." You meld, start doing things together, breathe in sync... All that...
Now when you split up, you're still thinking of your partner. You still have her on the brain. You gotta try to remember what you were like before you shared that part of yourself with her. If you were an avid cyclist and stopped cycling (or slowed down) to spend time with her, then get back to it.
Studying is good. Study for your exam. Read a book. Watch movies. Hang out with family. Rediscover the beast that is you. LOL
A common misconception is to sleep around. Now as much as I LOVE sex, that's not right b/c you're a mess now. You'd only end up taking advantage of the next chick (messing her up and further messing yourself up.)
You really can't offer anything except the baggage that you have right now. So you gotta walk a mile or so, dropping that overnight bag carrying your exes panties and toothbrush making room for the next chick (or chicks if you're a freak.)
Just chill for now.
2007-01-03 16:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mark T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgetting somebody just takes time.Do something that you enjoy that is healthy as often as possible, and be more productive by working extra. Read interesting books and watch comedy movies. Most importantly make new caring friends and lovers, as you come to heal.
2007-01-03 16:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mira Bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to move on is just remembering all the bad times he made you go thru. But it does make you self-destructive it only makes you stronger for lies in your future. And also makes you better at forgeting something fromt eh past. SO move on and forget about him.
2007-01-03 16:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While first get every thing away from u that reminds u of him then go out 2 the moives or some place that there r boy's then they will holler at u then u 2 can talk then got your man!
2007-01-03 16:56:55 · answer #11 · answered by avery4life2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋