My mom justcalled me,and told me she sick of my dad because he is never at home,he is never working,and he is always runnin' around with his brother.So,My mom said she got rid of him,and she is tired of him.Would she ever get back togther with him/ I am 12,and I need help!
2007-01-03 08:34:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your Mom shouldn't have called you. She should have waited until you got home and addressed this issue with you in the privacy of your home. There is nothing that you can do, but remember that they both love you and this has nothing to do with you.
2007-01-03 08:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to understand is that being married means people have responsibilities. Working and being at home with your family is a big part of that. if your dad is not there and he's not working then you mom needed to make him see it's not enough. It doesn't mean that if he gets a job and starts staying home that she'll take him back. It's possible the damage is so severe it can't be fixed. But remember that it's between them. They both love you and just because they can't be togteher doesn't mean they dont care about you. Your mom needs to be happy. If they always fight and you see it, thats not good either. I wish I could say something to make you feel better but I can't except to say in time things will be better and you might even see that you are happier too.
2007-01-03 16:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let that trouble you. It's unknown if your parents will get back together. The main thing now you need to concentrate on is getting good grades in school, and being the best child your mother could want. The reason why I say this, is I'm sure your mom has a lot on her mind, and it would help things out tremendously at home if she didn't have to worry about you.....if she can trust you. This would be a good time for you and your mom to bond....cause you're in this together. Take advantage of this.....you won't regret it. I wish you and your mom the best of luck........
2007-01-03 16:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might get back with him, and she might not. But you're only 12, and she should not have called you to tell you something like that. Parents who do this have a lot of growing up to do, and you're not in a position to hear your parents personal problems. My mother went through the same thing with my father, but she never said that she was sick of him, she simply said that even though she loved him, they couldn't live together. Your mother has no business telling you that much, but keep sympathy for both parents if you love your mother and father, and talk to your school counseler or an adult that you trust, because this shouldn't be a weight on your shoulders.
2007-01-03 16:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mom needs to do what makes her happy. My daughter is also 12. She did think long and hard about it before she mad that call. It sounds like your dad is not at home anyway. So instead of having a mom who is tired and worried all the time you will now have a mom who can devote more time to you. Remember in life, sometimes bad things happen. But it makes you appericiate all the good things. And being scared is one of the many emoitions you will have as you grow up.
2007-01-03 16:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by angiwilltwo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. What a thing to occur. Maybe she is just upset for the moment and things will clear up soon enough. If not, divorce is NOT the end of the world. It's a hard to thing to mend with but I think if you be strong, even at your young age, you can get through this tough time.
2007-01-03 16:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by Emirii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your mother shouldn't call you up to tell you this stuff at any age, especially 12. It sounds like your mother is really hurt and reaching out for anybody who will listen. Tell her that you love both her and your father. Ask her not to overreact and make a decision that will impact everyone. Never make a life changing decision when you're angry.
2007-01-03 16:38:42 · answer #7 · answered by Joe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh.... I am so sorry. I am 12 also and i can't imagine this happening. Both my best friends parents are divorced and they are still great kids. They are my girls i love them. I can't imagine how hard it is to have your parents get divorced, but it doesn't have to change who you are. It is not fair that your mom is putting you in the middle of it and you can tell her that. Tell her you understand if they have to get divorced but that she is making it feel like it is your fault. Stand up for yourself. You are still a kid. The best of luck.... Peacedove
p.s. Peacedove94@yahoo.com
2007-01-03 16:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by peacedove94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby you need to talk to your mom. Although we love to see our parents stay together, sometimes it doesn't work that way. but kudos to your mom she has you to think about and as painful as it was for her to put your dad out it needed to be done. she needs to show you that you don' t have to put up with some one that is not behaving responsible and not respecting you. You can still have a relationship with your dad. It is important to remember they both love you very much, they just need to be apart .
MUCH LOVE, Hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-03 16:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by Htnspyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie... I know you must be scared. I understand. Hopefully this is just your mom blowing off steam. I can't understand why would she call you to tell you this over the phone? These are things that are discussed calmly. I will keep you in my prayers.
2007-01-03 16:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by ppv918 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋