I just wanted to repost this question because people thought I was in high school!?

Question

I am a sophmore in college!!!..I have only been in 1 serious relationship which lasted for about 3 1/2 years and now I am in my second relationship. We have been together for a 1 year now and I don't know why when I we start getting serious and I fall in love I automatically think about having a baby. I am on birth control and have been on it for years. But I know I can't right now because Im in school and we are not financially stable yet but I don't know why I dream of having his child. But this is wierd!!!....when my period is late I panic and get scared and don't want to have one all of a sudden! If I want a baby with him then why do I get scared when my period is late. We even use protection and I get scared.
But I know ya'll are going to trip off of this....I just want to be pregnant but I dont want to go through the stage of giving birth. But I do want a child.
I have a 5 month old baby sister, a 6 yr old sister and a 3 yr old brother and I love taking care of my baby sister.

And I AM ALREADY ON BIRTH CONTROL SO I AM NOT TRYING TO GET PREGNANT I JUST OFTEN DREAM OF THE IDEA OF IT.

I ALSO SEE HOW GOOD HE TAKES CARE OF HIS 2 YR OLD NIECE..HE LOVES HER AND SHE SO CUTE SHE LOOKS JUST LIKE HIM AND I THINK OF HOW OUR CHILD WILL LOOK.

Answer 1

it makes sense that you get scared when your period is late, because you know that now is not a good time even though you want a baby. if you're really scared of actually giving birth, you can opt for a c-section, but do a lot of research before you decide either way. and sry that a lot of people on here are retarded and don't know how to read a whole question! (i can't stand them either!)

Answer 2

You just have really strong maternal urges. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you are intelligent about how it will affect your life and the child's life. There's never a perfect time to have a child, because you could always be more stable, have more money, better job, better house, more time in marriage with spouse, etc. But there are times that it's really not a great option -- like now, while you're in school. Longing for a baby and for pregnancy is nothing new and nothing bad. Just enjoy the feeling. You will get to do it soon enough and you will love it. I think you panic when you don't get your period because you know what a mistake it would be to have a baby under less-than-good circumstances and you are too smart to do it that way. Don't worry. All your instincts are good. Please try to be very careful.

Answer 3

First off, as you know having a baby is a lot of work and responsibility. Blah blah blah blah blah. True story. I am a 20 year old woman who beacame a mom of a thirteen yr old, a six yr old, and a 11 yr old over night. I married an older man. Well I didn't mess up my life. It is actually great. I love them. But it takes sacrifice. Not being able to buy that new pair of shoes. having to stay home when you wanna go out place because it means having to get other people dressed and ready to go with you. meals go from costing five bucks to forty. No more late morning sleeping. It takes more time to do everything.

Try this:
Ask your mom can you keep your baby sister for one week. Tell her not to send any bottles, pampers, no bed, nothing!!!!! Only a car seat. tell her that you wanna keep the baby and take care of her. Don't call your mom for advice. Do your research and then you see if for one week you can handle it. by day three those baby wishes of yours will be gone away.

Answer 4

Ok I can understand how you might like having a baby. They are so cute and adorable. But there is a big difference between baby sitting your baby sister or spending time with young cousins or neices and nephews: and having kids of your own. The focus you have right now should be on your education and once your career is underway.... plan the baby. Until then everytime you get the urge to be a momma go babysit a kid.

Answer 5

okay i can totally relate, i dont want kids but when you are in love you definatly think about it!!! You can stress yourself out thinking about this and actually cause yourself to miss or be late on your period, that is what my doctor told me. I know it is hard but try not to think about it too often- you might freak your boyfriend out.
if you cannot afford a child right now make it a point to not get pregnant, it will break you guys apart.
keep babysitting it is much easier to give kids back at the end of the night
good luck

Answer 6

Hmm, this is a bit odd perhaps but attributable to maternal instincts and just a personal characteristic that you tend to worry about things.

Also, while I'm not sure if this is your question, it's better to hold off on having kids until you're out of college and you have a job (as will you bf; you should also hopefully be married, or engaged to become married really soon, if you're going to have a kid).

Answer 7

i know exactly what you are going through i was going through the same thing with my boyfriend do you thnk that maybe you just want a baby to make sure you are going to be in a relationship for a long time and you dont want to loose your man? you know that you areractually not ready to have a child so you kniow your not even close to being ready... thats why you get afraid when your period is late

Answer 8

i do not want to give advice on your emotional difficulties, because i dont know enough about you and i dont want to end up giving you advice that ruins your life. all i will say is that you should talk to your boyfriend about it. i will tell you, though, that being on birth control is really bad for your body, and i would consider at least taking a few months break and switching to condoms. forcing your body to think it's pregnate is actually really bad for you, and there are some studies (none completely confirmed) that being on birth control for a long period of time can help develop early breast cancer.

good luck.

Answer 9

Pregnancy represents stability. You love this guy & deep down inside you feel that IF you were to get pregnant he would ALWAYS be with you, but then when you are late......reality sets in and you realize that you aren't ready for that yet.

Your feelings are normal......I dont of any woman who hasn't had
these types of feelings before...........just make sure that you are being ULTRA safe and realize that every time you have sex there is a possibility that you might become pregnant.........
even if you are using protection.

Answer 10

You're panicking because you know as much as you would want a child with him, now is not the time. Good for you to making sure you don't have an unwanted pregnancy and being mature enough to takes the correct measures. You'll know when you are ready and he is too.