My son wants to quit the Basketball team. He made the team and has been practicing for two months. His grades have dropped. He plays an instrument and has stopped practicing. so far half the season has progressed and he has yet to play in one game. In fact in practice his coach doesn't even involve him in the plays. His coach calls him a "pussy" because he doesn't play with passion since he stopped caring after he rode the bench for half the season. In fact the coach played a 7th grader before him. Do you think it would be the right thing to allow him to quit?
2007-01-03 08:29:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Before letting him drop basketball (which will no doubt be hard to get back to if he quits then changes his mind), you need to check that there is nothing bothering him. It seems not only is his basketball going downhill but so are his grades and music and if this is a sudden thing, something might have happened to make him lose interest in his hobbies.
But grades are more important than basketball so, if the worse comes to the worse, let him quit then work with him to get his grades back up.
2007-01-03 12:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by starchilde5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I never allowed my kids to quit in the middle of any season, but then the coaches were not calling them names. I would be on that coach with the principal in tow!! He would be replaced and reprimanded immediately - even if I had to go to the school board. (and YES you can do that!) I agree with one of the other answers above - the one relating to drugs and/or alcohol. For him to change so drastically, 'something' besides the name calling has to be going on. A 15 yr old should have tougher skin than that by now -- no, I am not saying anything about him being 'sensitive', just most 15 yr old boys would tell the coach to stuff it and walk off, not just brood on the bench. It is just tooooo easy to blame all his problems on the coach --- there is something else going on here to have his grades drop and loose interest in his music. But with all of this said, YOU are there -- we are not and you are the only one that can make that decision.
2007-01-03 08:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was very wrong for the coach to call him names! But to answer your question, talk it over with him. If he really, really can't stand it, let him quit. If he really doesn't like it, maybe he can try something else next year. However, there may be a different coach as he moves up so he might want to do it again. Support him and tell him you are proud of him, and if possible, work with your son to help him improve his skills. If you want, you can talk to his coach (If your son wants you to, many kids won't want their parents to talk for them) and ask him why your son hasn't played, but don't sound like one of those parents that "has to have their kid play because he's the best." Maybe your son could talk to him. A coach should always be willing to go over something or help the players. Maybe this just isn't your son's passion. Support him all the way. Good luck!
2007-01-03 08:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since his grades have dropped then I would let him quit. Getting good grades and finishing school is a lot more important than sports. To me schools spend way too much money on sports programs. So I suggest that your son quit basketball since his coach apparently don't let him play anyways. Yes it would be the right thing. Let your son decide, but let him know that whatever he decides you will stand up for his decision.
2007-01-03 10:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Bill S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be ok personally. I know from experience that some coaches in schools are so damn competitive that they will make you feel like **** about yourself if you dont meet their standards. Your son may now feel so badly about himself that its affecting everythign he does. I say let him quit but encourage him to keep up his instrument if he is good at that. Tell him you love him and you support him in anythign and any decision he makes. Offer him a psychiatrist. ALSO on the other hand...the bad hand ...watch for signs of drugs or alcohol. He could be partying and just losing himself in it. Drugs and alcohol are taken at school as well so just because your kid may not go OUT often doesnt mean he doesnt have access to it. Good luck with this. Just support him and keep a close eye on him.
2007-01-03 08:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by Brutally Honest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like his heart is in it anyway so why make him stay. It's not like he's pouting over being benched for one game....AND, his grades are suffering. Grades are much more important. Maybe he misses playing his instrument and would have more time for that and schoolwork if he is allowed to quit basketball.
2007-01-03 14:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him quit! If he doesn't play then whats the point of being on the team? His grades are dropping AND he is not playing his instrument, even if he didn't ant to I would pull him out!
2007-01-03 11:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has great reasons to want to quit I would allow him to. He could get his greads up and start on the instrument he use to play again.
2007-01-03 13:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 yrs old... im guessing he is in highschool, so tell me what do you think will get him into a better college? a 3.6 GPA or a 2.9 GPA, with a sport. colleges dont give scholorships if the grade shows no effort...so if he wants to and his grades require him to let him...grades come first, THEN extra activities
2007-01-03 14:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by popeye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
allow him to quit? You can't make him play..which he doesnt anyway so what's the difference. School is more important.
2007-01-03 08:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋