I'm in 9th grade and I have a crush on this 11th grader. i really like him but I'm super shy I don't know what to say to him when I see him. I end up leaving the room! I want him to notice me and at least try to become friends. He doesn't seem like the typical teen guy he's polite and nice and different from other guys
2007-01-03 08:24:19 · 28 answers · asked by minireb123 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well Sounds like you need to be Brave !!!I know thats hard I am shy to.You'll need to develope a shell for situations like these.Always know that there will always be let downs.Thats out of your hands.But there are also Surprises!You never know till you try! Consider it this way.If he acts stuck up and doesnt like you then he wasnt worth your time.But sounds like he is a sweetie and if this is so he will treat you with kindness.Find an opening and plan on what you will say so you dont end up dumb founded and speechless.(I have been there myself).Pretend you are strong and confident.When you send out those vibes people will respond alot different.And never rush things or get your hopes to high if you do start talking..Guys run like hell from the needy woman or the desperate types.If he will like you you wont need to work too hard to find out, just send out subtle vibes and if he takes the bate you wont have to work hard to get him.And if u do have to work hard you might as well forget it and move on.GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-03 08:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by laurancarolina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try find a interest you share.Its only 2 year difference so it itsnt that bad.If that doesnt work see if any of your mates know his,always used to work for me lol now i just dont bother,i just get someone to get their attention start talking and there you go instant mates lol ( i am not joking i dont how or why but it works great,and well as long as you are close mates but not best mates there is always the chance/option of going out ) *i am 15 next month,dont know how old you are if your in 9th grade but..give it a try*
Oh and as for your shyness,i know this is really mean but it worked when people said to me." when your drunk your not shy,and you have fun so why does it take having a drink to live when you only have one life and you should live it to the full,but be safe or i will kill him...you know if theres a he involved,although if anything bad happens i will kill people involved lol " some good advice from my mates,because i dont drink but recently been to few partys and had something to drink and just had a laugh and not being able to stop talking about it,and well...that was their advice to it,hope it helps you,hope you get together and he is a sweet and he appears to be
2007-01-03 16:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by kez_124 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at an age when this is so difficult. Being rejected is probably the worst feeling you can have during this time of your life. But, it's not the end of the world.
Since he is older, you probably don't have any classes together. But if you did, you could try and ask him to study with you. Better yet, most guys cannot resist helping a girl out either. Perhaps you need some help in a class that he has already taken (pick one of the basic classes that you know he would have had to take, like Algebra or Chemistry).
If you can't approach and speak to him, write him a note. Say something like,
"My name is ____ (if he doesn't know it.) I was hoping you might be able to help me with an assignment (homework, project), that I'm having some trouble with. I'd like to get together this weekend and you can call me or email me to let me know."
If he doesn't respond, then you have your answer. But also, if he doesn't respond, you need to tell yourself that he is the one missing out on meeting a terrific girl like you!!!
Good luck!
2007-01-03 16:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by debra62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm...
It's not odd for even a Senior to date a Freshman (it happens at my school all the time).
Sweetie, age ain't nothin' but a number, okay? It's not like he's 30 and you're twelve or something. It's only a couple of years. Work up the courage - or just do this on an impulse - to talk to him. Trust me, you'll at least become friends. Works every time. Even if you make a fool of yourself, he'll probably think it was a cute Freshman thing and start a conversation with you about it. Or something. <3
2007-01-03 16:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by Kayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not that much olders. I dated plenty of seniors when I was a freshie in high school. Just go talk to him... the worst that could happen is he ends up being uninterested, but at least then you'd know and you could quit worrying about it, but chances are if he's a nice guy he might be looking for someone just like you.
2007-01-03 16:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lowa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say "hi" to him. seriously, that's all you have to do. Just walk by and say "hi' and give him a look and a smile then keep walking. 9 times out of 10 he's going to start asking people who you are because now he'll be intrigued as to why this girl said hi to him and who she is, etc. I'm guessing he'll nod at you or say hi the next time he sees you. Then either you or he can start a conversation to see if there's anything there.
2007-01-03 16:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing I can tell you is age,size,or grade does'nt matter.I'm in the 9th grade to and my boyfriend is in the 11th grade.He was the shy one.To tell you the truth once we found out we was in the same classroom he stepped up and asked for my number.Then we started to talk.All I'm saying is that maybe you should step up.
2007-01-03 16:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by SexyRed16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it, sweetheart! I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 23; that's a bigger difference than between 9th and 11th grade! Good luck! Knock his socks off!
2007-01-03 16:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so you being shy will not help you in any case. You need to suck it up and go and talk to him. Get to know him a little bit more before you say that you like him because guys can always seem a little bit different after you meet them. Also be your self and dont try to be some one that you are not. guys dont like that and if he likes you he will like you because of who you are.
2007-01-03 16:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's polite and nice he's not going to just shoot you down at the offer of a friendship. Just try your hardest to stick around when you see him. Be nice, polite, try not to be so shy around him and hopefully a friendship will start. Don't jus throw yourself at him though that never works. Good luck.
2007-01-03 16:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mystic-scorpio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋