My family is saying i have to have all that because they help dduring the wedding to give the rings, to help with the rope, etc etc To me its pointless because i have no friends that i would want in my wedding, neither does he, it would be my cousins as bridesmaids and i dont feel theyve been with me through any time during this relationship neither have they wanted to. My mother however feels im excluding them. What do i do.
2007-01-03 08:22:48 · 27 answers · asked by noones 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Attendants are not necessary but you will need to have 2 witnesses.
2007-01-03 08:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no religous reason to have them, they ae just for show. The one thing you do have to have is two witnesses to sign the marriage certificate - usually that is the maid of honor and groomsman - but it can be any two members of the audience as well. My sister in law didn't want to have a wedding party, so they had the mother's as witnesses.
Some other things the bridal party does:
- Best Man often carries the rings - but the groom could carry them, or they could be given to the preacher in advance
- Maid Of Honor usually adjusts your train when you get up front, holds your flowers when you are exchanging rings, etc - you could have your mother or someone in the front row do those things for you
2007-01-03 09:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your day, if you don't want them, don't have them!
A wedding isn't about the show, it's about the two of you and the only other person needed to be standing up front is the person officiating! Give your rings to the priest/preacher before the ceremony and have him hand them to you. And as for the other things, they can be done without! There is no law that states those things MUST be done at weddings!
Include the people your mother wants in the wedding in a few showers or at a brunch. Explain to your mother that you just don't want the big showy event, you want it to be solely about you and your fiance! Good luck and congratulations!
2007-01-03 08:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding, do it the way you want it. If your parents are paing for the wedding, than not having the wedding party would save them more money. Do what you want...it's your day, nobody elses. In fact, at my wedding, I don't plan on having a wedding party either. Because like you I feel the same way. None of my friends nor family members have been with me through our relationship so that kinda defeats the purpose of having them there besides me. So do what makes you happy and good luck.
2007-01-03 08:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by loveable_1_4u2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that those who hold the money are the controllers. Blessed is the couple who have their wedding their way as well as financial help.
I'm going to assume "the rope" you're speaking about is the Lasso blessing. This is not usually in a christian ceremony unless you have specifically asked for it. Is this something YOU want?
As far as your family contributing, I think that's nice. But if they are holding money over your head to get you to do things you don't want or want to do, they are wrong.
You do not have to have a wedding party. You do not have to have anything but you, the groom & the officiant.
If your county requires witnesses you can ask a couple of guests to sign.
2007-01-03 09:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did Adam and Eve have bridesmaids and groomsman? Me and my husband are Christians and got married with just us and 6 friends at the wedding commissioners house, then went horsebackriding and then for a nice dinner. It was great. It was all about us and not about anyone else. My parents were a little upset but they understood that it was what I wanted. Your marriage is your commitment to each other under God and has nothing to do with anyone else.
Congradulations by the way!
2007-01-03 08:30:38 · answer #6 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had many couples choose to have no wedding party. You can always assign a family member to hold the rings and when the officiant asks for them they step forward and hand them to the officiant. Your witnesses can be anyone who was present. You will also save about $250 - $400 per attendant not in the wedding. Save this money and have a great honeymoon. This will also be one less thing you have to coordinate and organize. Good Luck!!
2007-01-03 08:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by Hudson Valley Ceremonies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the exterior to the interior (bride being the furthest "interior" individual), they could stand as follows: junior bridesmaid bridesmaid maid of honor bride do not base it on top, base it on "bridesmaid seniority" - the main commemorated individual may be the closest to you. The flower lady could stand between or somewhat in front of somebody who can sort of watch over her, or she could sit down together with her family individuals after walking up the aisle. on condition that she's small, it is going to possibly not remember the two way. If the junior bridesmaid and the flower lady are acquaintances or appropriate, they are able to stand jointly. If the flower lady is nearer to the bridesmaid, they are able to stand jointly. The maid of honor should not be tasked with the flower lady, on condition that she'll be dealing jointly with your bouquet, your practice, the groom's ring, and so on. Your junior bridesmaid would not easily desire "initiatives" - she could be putting out with you and the bridesmaids on the marriage day, and then she could be unfastened to have exciting on the reception like all of us else!
2016-10-19 10:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel...but you will need 2 witnesses. The Maid or Matron of Honor and the Best Man usually act as the witnesses. They are needed to sign the marriage certificate.
2007-01-03 12:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is silly. NO you don't need them. Its more of a way of honoring your friendships with people. You do need two official witnesses to the wedding in addition to the pastor who all must sign your marriage certificate. Aside from that you don't need anything. We have a ca-gillion people in our wedding and its a little silly but we have a lot of important people we want involved in the process.
2007-01-04 02:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by Trevor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of couse not !! It can just be you and your future husband at the altar. Your husband can have the ring in his pocket . Invite your cousins to the wedding, but why should they be in the wedding party? They probably wouldn't want to if you don't see them often. I think this is your wedding, and you have the right to do what makes you happy.
2007-01-03 09:33:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋