time! That was about 2 years ago. Make a long story short, at the beginning I wasnt sure and I wanted to leave him. But then I realised how much I cared and Ive been faithful ever since. I couldnt live with the guilt, so I recently told him the truth. He was very upset but he told me that he would not penalize me for something that happened when we were not serious. He said he would of never found out, and me telling him the truth on my own shows him how I am. Everything is back to normal and Im greatful, I thank god everyday. Did I do the right thing? and does this make me a bad person?for even though he has long gone forgiven me I still feel shallow and unworthy...can i let this go?
2007-01-03 08:19:59 · 18 answers · asked by pink_starlet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You went elsewhere because at the time you didn`t see it hapening with him. You did something few women do and I praise you. When things weren`t perfect , you stuck around and tried to work it out. Even if that wasn`t successful (which good it was) its the trying to work it out that makes you a better person. All too often people just give up. Its people like you that help me hold my head high and carry on in MY quest of finding the mate for me.
2007-01-03 08:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take his word on it and let it go. Who cares what happened at the beginning of your relationship. Do you want to live in the past or right now? You didn't do the right thing though. Telling someone you cheating doesn't help anyone out. You might feel relieved that "it's all out now" but you've really just stirred up the bees nest. Next time just move past it quickly and forgive yourself. Nobody is perfect.
2007-01-03 16:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by telling him. And make sure you never do it again!!
It doesn't make you a bad person. Cheating is wrong, sure, but you made a mistake. You couldn't have learned if you didn't make that mistake. Now I'm sure you won't ever do it again, because you don't want to have to feel that guilt ever again, right? You should just let it go, and let that be the end of it all.
2007-01-03 16:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let this go and realize that you should never do this again. Maybe getting some counseling will help you move past this. I give him 2 thumbs up for letting it go and still loving you all the same. Be grateful you have a conscious and told him the truth, it makes you a better person in the end.
2007-01-03 16:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when people start relationships its not too serious, so they still have their eyes open for other options. Cheating is bad but obviously you didn't think the relationship was on a serious level. I think 75% of the people here have done the same thing as you..and you shouldn't feel guilty. Especially if you love the guy and you've been faithful.
2007-01-03 16:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by g00dapple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you coming clean was a very good idea. It will help show him that you are committed to him, however, the whole cheating thing is not my idea of thoughts well placed. However from what it seems you were not entirely serious at that point. Just remember it, but dont dwell on it, you made the right choice and in time you will see that it has helped strengthen your relationship. But becareful of how you phrase things for a while, you dont want to make him think that you could still cheat.
2007-01-03 16:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good that you told him (Bad that you cheated) , it takes alot to say sorry and it's good that you did it. As for you feeling shallow & unworthy turn the page it's part of your past now look forward to the future you two have. He has forgiven you now forgive yourself.
2007-01-03 16:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by tigerclawz031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend let it go and so should you, do not sabotage and let useless guilt and misplaced sense of low self esteem sink your otherwise fine relationship. What's in the past is long gone. Leave it there and forget about it. It's over and done with.
2007-01-03 16:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you learned your lesson. and your guilt is good. it will keep you from doing anything like that again. with that being said you need to stop beating yourself up. He has forgiven you. so forgive yourself. Don't dwell on the past,look forward to the future...or something like that. Good Luck
2007-01-03 16:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did I do the right thing? Yes.
Does this make me a bad person? No.
Can i let this go? You're doing that by asking that question.
2007-01-03 16:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋