Divorced after 9 years of an unhappy marriage with two children out of the relationship. Met a girl 1 year after my divorce and we have been together and been together for almost 2 years. Now after we have gotten established she all of a sudden hates my two young daughters from my other relationship. I treat my GF like a princess and get a bunch of grief and heartache from her. Maybe death as we all know it is better then this thing we all call life. With what we call death I won’t have to worry about dealing everyday stresses that we all have to put up with. What do you do when you get tired? Go to a counselor and have them try to persuade you that living is better then passing away or trying to put you on medicine to hide the fact that I just don’t fu@kn belong here? Are there any good girl left? I am a good man, father and companion. I have had bad luck w/grls. Too many girls complain that they don’t or can’t find a good man, but they never come my way. Is life really worth living?
2007-01-03 08:19:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay.... counseling and psych's are not all that great! for me it took everyday me looking in the mirror and trying to find a reason to like myself. i went through a lot of rough stuff, i used to OD on anything and everything i could find, cut myself, and what-not. well eventually i realized that life is what you make of it..... so i tried to find the positive in everything no matter how hard it seemed or how much pain i was in. i still struggle all the time, but i find that when it gets really bad writing helps me a lot. i reccomend that to anyone! there are good girls out there still, trust me, you'll find one, you just have to look in unexpected places! good luck!
2007-01-03 08:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by heaven-sin-t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide not to live you are making one of the most selfish decisions a person can make. Stop and think a minute about your kids - will they be provided for if you are not around? You made a decision to bring them into this world and it is your responsibility to ensure that they have a better life than you. Besides them, what about your parents? Do you really want to put them through losing a child? Can you imagine how you would feel? Suck it up buddy -- so your love life sucks -- so what. There are other things in life. When you are ready for a relationship to which you can commit, then you will likely attract a compatible mate. Your attitude is difficult to hide and likely comes through when you speak to women. Try something different to meet women. Take a class, join a gym, go through one of those dating services but don't do it until you change your outlook. If you really like your current gf -- talk to her and find out what the issue is with your daughters -- maybe it will be an easy fix. Sit them all down together and have a discussion. If you can't come to an agreement or make a plan then accept that you need to move on but remember that your daughters have to be your #1 priority.
2007-01-03 16:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by paloma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, life is like school and can be no fun at times. I was in a similar situation about 7 years ago and I told myself to just focus on me and my son right now. I was just attracting the wrong guy and doing the same thing over and over again.
Then a friend told me about Co-dependents Anonymous and I saw my character defects and have learned some tools in order to keep it together. A lot of people go into the program feeling like why should they go on and I feel like that too sometimes but they give me hope and remind me that I'm not alone.
I think maybe it's time to focus on yourself and what's best for your kids and let the girlfriend go so that when you're feeling better you'll attract a better person for you and your girls.
2007-01-03 16:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by sleepygee75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry things have been rough, but if you throw your life away when you have two children, that is not fair to them. Try spending more time with them. Many divorced women or even single women find a helpful father attractive.
Women are also turned off by low self esteem, so be confident. Trust me, the right woman will come - just be patient. Good luck in 07!
2007-01-03 16:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Tess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is always more to live for in this life. The chance is that you looked over your new girlfriend's flaws because you were looking for something to verify your actions since the devorce. Know that there is always more that can happen both good and bad. Try to stay away from dating for a while and find what makes you you. You have to find what you are looking for in someone else before you can find any person who matches your expectations. Just relax, and perhaps take a bit of time to examine yourself more than validating yourself by being through others. Life is always worth living.
~Scholar~
2007-01-03 16:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by Scholar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow- what a selfish way to look at things. Maybe you should take a brief pause from your pity party and realize you do have to kids. Try living for them like a good parent and quit worrying about what you don't have. At least you have been married and have two kids. There are many who never know that pleasure. And if you want to get really personal put yourself in someone else's shoes for a minute. I am 30 and in the past year--lost my child to a woman who took custody of her. I have never seen her, don't know her name, and don't even know if she is healthy or when she was born. I can't afford to go to court and fight it and if I did I don't even know where they are. Oh, yea--and I had cancer last year when she took off. So grow the f*uck up and be a Dad. You have that chance and you are so busy crying about what you don't have. I hope you never know what it feels like to be in my shoes.
2007-01-03 16:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by J D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK im going to try not to preach at you. I'm a Christian ..(dont stop reading here please!)... it sounds like you've had a rough time and everything but relationships aren't all that life is about... not human ones neway...
The most important and most rewarding relationship you'll ever have in life is with God. I mean... do you know what's coming after death? Because if you're not in that relationship with God it is not going to be better than life I promise.
Life is worth living, with or without a girlfriend in your life. Look at your daughters for two good things in your life! Why has your girlfriend suddenly decided to 'hate' them anyway? They're your daughters!! She sounds quite selfish to me..
I think you need to take a look at your life and see the good things rather than the bad!! There's good things in everyone... maybe there's some hard things happening... maybe you'll end up breaking up with your girlfriend or maybe you'll fix it up but whatever happens, please don't give up on your life!!
2007-01-03 16:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by yellowbelly821 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, your life is worth living and I bet those two kids think so too. Look, we all run across a bad streak or two in this life, for some of us it feels like more often than not. Please don't base the happiness of your life on other people actions or lack of. You are well rid of anyone who would come between you and your kids.
You need to get some help for your depression and suicidal thoughts. Please remember how much your children need you. Women come and go, its not over for you. Medication and counseling can help through the bad times, depression is not a life sentence. Please know there are lots of people who care about you, even people you don't know you.
2007-01-03 16:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by LoneStarLou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really dont know what you have until its gone. Life is so unexpecting. You dont know what might happen. Thats the fun. You need look on the bright side and see the glass half full. you have two daughters who probably love you tons. Its a new year... maybe a new you. Dont give up =)
2007-01-03 16:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by fakealaugh 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life is worth living and you never know what to expect next. Hope that 2007 is a great year for you.
2007-01-03 16:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋