Wedding problems, scream?

Question

Okay well my wedding is coming up in a week and my dress is getting hand made and they haven't even finished yet, plus the flowers aren't what i order i wanted lillys and they give me roses, im going nuts and i am about to pull out my hair, is it okay if B I T C H at some of the ppl at the wedding, because im the kind who never says anything mean but its my wedding day and i want everything to be perfect am i being selfish?

Answer 1

It sounds like you need a bit of a time out to regroup - take a step back, breathe deep, and remind yourself why you're getting married. Weddings are stressful, and most people expect that the bride will have some sort of meltdown right about now. Yes, it's your wedding, and yes, you want it to be lovely - but it will be, whether you have roses or lillies or dandilions.

Don't take it out on people in the wedding, or at the wedding - if you need to take it out on the florist who screwed up, do so. You're a paying customer and it's their job to make it right for you. If you need to put some pressure on the seamstress, do that too. But if it's someone you know (a friend or family member), PLEASE don't make them cry. They're probably just as stressed about having taken on such a big project and not having it done yet.

I was in a wedding a couple of years ago where one of the bridesmaids was making her own dress (we all had them made), and she and a friend spent the last two nights before the wedding working on it nonstop, all night. They got it done though, and it was beautiful.

Try not to freak out too much - too much emphasis is put on having the "perfect" wedding - they're never "perfect", but they're nearly always wonderful, beautiful celebrations of love and commitment. What do you want to remember about this day a year from now? That you turned into a cranky, stressed-out, miserable shrew, or that you married the man of your dreams and threw a great party for your friends and family? Because really that's what a wedding is - just a big, fancy party. Make the most of it.

Congratulations, and good luck in conquering your inner Bridezilla.

Answer 2

First of all, your flowers are wrong?! Hold on right there, did you sign a contract with your florist? Did you put the type of flowers you wanted in writing? If so, then there is NO REASON why they should be wrong. Unless of course, there is a supply reason, like they can't get enough of your preference. In that case, the florist should contact you to allow you to choose what flowers you would like to substitute with. At no point should they have made this change without you. Let them know that you are not satisfied and if they aren't willing to deliver to you what you ordered and arranged with them, that you will not be paying for their services. By all means ***** at them, but remember to be a little bt nice, because you still want them to come through for you. Crying always helps make vendors feel bad about things they have done wrong. And let them know that you will be telling everyone you knwo about the shotty job they did on fulfilling your want and your order for your BIG day! Remind them that a florist best advertising is through word of mouth, and you could be the worst advertisement they ever recieved if they don't correct your mistake.
If all else fails, do you have a farmers market in your area with fresh cut flowers? Or do you have a Sam's Club in your area, you can always contact them immediatley and get soem flowers ordered that would be delivered to your door. Order your lilies and then go to a fabric store and pick out a pretty ribbon to tie them together with and there you have some last minute flowers!
Second, I assume there was a contract on your dress, as well. When was the deadlien for the dress to be completed? Has that date passed? Did you discuss a back up plan with your seamstress for the chance that it may not be completed? If all else fails for that, you can always go to a boutique and find a dress that could work, even if it needs minor alterations, I'm certain you could find someone to help you out and do it overnight. It may not be the dress you've been dreaming of since childhood, but you would have a dress.
And yes, i hate to say this, but from plenty of experience, ***** away at the people you have asked to stand by your side on this big day. They should be prepared to handle it. After all, you didn choose them because they are closest to you, so they know your frustrated and they should understand if you tend to take it out on them a little bit. Jut mke sure you apologize afterwards and thank them tremendously for all they did and for their understanding.
And by wanting everything perfect it in no way means you are selfish, just overwhelmed and like every other bride!
Take a deep breath and calm down.
Take a second to think, this day isn't about every detail, the details do NOT make your day. They add to it!
If every detail isn't exactly as you pictured, will this mean you can't get married, NO-aboslutely not!
If you walk down the aisle with roses and not lillies does it make you any less married, NO-absolutely not!
Slow down some and enjoy the moment, it is over so quickly once your wedding day gets here, so calm down, take a breath and realize that everything is fixable!
And trust me on this part also, those last minute changes, may be the part you and all of your guests look back on and love the most! Things happen for a reason some times!
If you need more last minute fix it ideas let me know! I've done hundreds of weddings and I may have an idea to help you out!

Answer 3

Stop & take a couple of deep breaths. Things go wrong.

Now, call the seamstress that is making your dress. Stress to her that you are upset with your dress not being done; that you don't need added stress yourself and you would appreciate her/them putting forth the effort to get it done so you don't have to wear your bathrobe to your wedding.

Next, the florist has plenty of time to get your flowers right. Did you sign a contrat or did you pay with a credit card? Both give you A LOT of leverage. Tell the florist that you want what you orderd. Give them a chance to make it right. If they don't, then go with what you have for the wedding & take the appropriate action afterwards.

I know you have your heart set on having your wedding day perfect......except there is no such thing. So relax as best you can. Remember that as important as the flowers & dress and all the other stuff is, the really important reason for your wedding is you are about to commit the rest of your life to your fiance because you love him. Don't let anything ruin that.

Answer 4

If you ordered lillies and you received roses, you have a legitimate complaint. Since you still have 1 week until your wedding, you should try to resolve this problem now. If you ordered these flower from a florist you should complain and if they are reputable they will give you a refund or correct the problem.

There are always last minute details that happen at a wedding. I'm sure your dress will be fine.

But don't ruin your day (and everyone else's day) by complaining on your wedding day. It is supposed to be a special day...make it special.

Answer 5

Call the florist and politely tell them that there has been a mix up. If they don't know that there is a problem with your order, how can they fix the situation? A week is certainly enough time to correct the problem. If you are getting married on Saturday,call the seamstress and tell her that because of the frantic pace of these last days, the only time you have for a final fitting is Wednesday afternoon. Hopefully this little nudge will force them to have the dress ready a few days early, and give you some peace of mind. (p.s. Don't wish for a perfect wedding, it is the small mishaps that you will laugh about for years!)

Answer 6

Just relax. Your wedding won't be destroyed because you have roses instead of lilies...but if its a week away, then you should be able to fix the flowers. Maybe call whoever is making your dress and talk to them and let them know you are a little worried, but don't be mean. Your day will be perfect no matter what, so just chill out.

Answer 7

It's your wedding and it should be how you want it to be. If the flowers aren't right you should definitely see what happened and complain to the manager. And make sure to mention that you won't recommend them to anyone. Hopefully your dress will be finished. If it's handmade it still may need altering and if you wait too late you may have a problem. If you get really upset and yell at a bunch of people, I'm sure they'll forgive you because they know it's your wedding, but I wouldn't do that unless you really had to or couldn't hold it in anymore. Good Luck!

Answer 8

There was a law suit once where a man wanted to sue a restaurant because he got a chicken bone in his bowl of chicken soup. In court, the judge ruled that the chicken bone was not a foreign object and therefore the law suit was thrown out of court. He also exclaimed that if it was oyster stew and a pearl was found, no complaint would have been filed as the patron made off with a pearl. So, you see, a pin is not necessarily an unusual thing to find in a dress. As a dressmaker, I am very careful to retrieve all pins, but once in a great while, one gets caught in a fold and cannot be detected. This is not done intentionally or meant to harm anyone, of course. Please find it in your heart to let this go. As a parent your instinct is to protect your kids, I know and I get it. But, in the long run, your son is fine, regardless of the pain he suffered. My sister closed a door while my one year old son's fingers were in the hinge side of the door. The door closed and my son's pinky was amputated then and there. I picked up that finger and rushed to the emergency room for emergency reattachment of his finger. It was horrible, yes. He recovered, yes. Did I sue my sister? NO.

Answer 9

yea and no. i hear what u r saying but then if u r going to ***** then make sure it is at the right person like the dress lady or the flower people not ur family and friends. and that is all part of plaining a wedding hun. trust me. lol i hope things get better and u have a great wedding things will work out. good luck

Answer 10

With your wedding only being a week or so away, you may be stuck with those roses, or have the florist come up with something else, get a discount, try not sweat it! Somethings are out of our hands. Your dress will be ready on time, just keep lighting a fire under the seamstress. Your wedding will be perfect, just concentrate on you and your groom! Its a joyous occasion, don't let the small stuff bog ya down!

Good luck...and keep your chin up!