he has x parnter with kids and he thinks of them all the time and he sorts of blames me for not seeing his kids but he kissed her when we are together and she says i am to have nothing to do with them she just wants him to go to the house why please help
2007-01-03 07:27:11 · 45 answers · asked by jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
is there something going on between the two of them sounds a bit freaky!
2007-01-03 07:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jo. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think you may already know the answer to this question deep down. If you have been with him for this long and he is not treating you properly i know its hard but find someone better for you. When he kissed her you know he isnt to be trusted after i know you love him but sometimes its better to let go. The only way you will find out for sure is to ask him why you cant go round to the house. I dont believe you wont let him see the kids but i sense you feel hurt when he goes to see them and your not with him and then you probably have a go for him spending time with his children. If he wont have you being part of there lives then you probabley wont get him to marry you. You are only going to make yourself stressed and ill and nobody needs it.
Confront your partener and ask him why for all these years you dont want him to marry you or see you kids and why arent you involved in any of the plans with his children and why he kissed her. He sounds like a cheat.
2007-01-03 07:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hold you in my prayer and hope that you wake up and see the light. The problem here is you already kow the answer to the Question that you asked you dont kneed the people on this sight it tell your heart what it already knows. I know that 6 years is a long time but if he really cared for you at all he wouldnt do it to you just think that if he can kiss her in front of you then just imagine what else he will do when you aren't around. Real love doesn't hurt.
2007-01-03 07:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he still wants to be with his ex, but doesn't want to hurt you. Although, you're hurting right now. Maybe you need to stand up for yourself and end this. I think there is someone else out there that will make you feel loved the way you want to be. This guy has too much baggage...kids you can accept, but the ex & bf kissing is crossing the line. Start 2007 off with a more positive outlook on life and get rid of him.
2007-01-03 07:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Kimber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. You aren't painting a pretty picture here. He puts his ex before you. Blames you because he doesn't see his kids and KISSES her! Sounds like to me they still have a thing. He may not want to marry you because it will tick her off and he's afraid she'll stop him from seeing the kids if he marries you. You need to sit down and ask him directly why he won't marry you, make him give you honest reasons, then decide if you are just a toy to him or someone he plans on making a life with.
2007-01-03 07:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a boyfriend of 17 years and he wont marry me either. But sounds to me that his kids (and his ex-wife's influence) are a big part of not marrying.
Why would you be to blame for him not seeing his kids. You (if you aren't already doing this) need to encourage him to spend regular time with his kids. I bet it is him but he is using you as a reason/excuse.
You have decisions to make about your future and if you want to be married, have children etc. he may not be the boyfriend for you in the long haul.
Look into your heart and start making decisions.
2007-01-03 07:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOOHHHH my dear, please don't even degrade yourself like this. That guy wants to "have his cake and eat it too". He wants to have an intimate relationship with both you and the mother of his kids.
If what you have stated is all true then you are just being his tool and no woman should be treated that way.
Plus, he's been your boyfriend for 6 freaking years without even bringing up marriage ... well, you should be happy you haven't married him because he is really a piece a crap. *Sorry, but I have to be honesy*
You don't have a relationship, you are just his web of deception ... ha, his ex-girlfriend is an idiot to say the least.
Leave the relationship and get someone better.
2007-01-03 07:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by rosie768 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Jen forget this one, there are too many problems concerning his ex and it sounds to me like you dont trust him and wont allow him to see his kids. Well you cant stop him from seeing his kids and his ex will always be in his life because of them.
He wont marry because he has been there and done that before and he probably could do without the aggrivation of it all. Question yourself and then ask him why he wont marry you.
He perhaos wont commit because you are maybe too controlling and make him unhappy. Get things straight with him.
2007-01-03 07:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by Scatty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He's way too involved with his children and their mother, you will always take a second-seat to them. The kids should come first, but it doesn't sound like it's just about the kids. You should move on and find someone who's into you, because that's what you deserve. Good luck.
2007-01-03 07:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reasons to Get Out of this Situation:
1)He still cares for his X (he kissed her?!)
2)He's obviously afraid of commitment (6 years of dating him)
3)He makes you feel guilty for not seeing HIS kids
4)Overall, he doesn't sound like a good guy to stick around with!
Move on
2007-01-03 07:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by sonata 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me that you just need to get out of that situation. Why did you stay after you found out that he kissed her. They still have feelings for each other. He is not going to marry you. How many years are you going to waste? Love yourself more and get out of that situation. All things come to an end. I know that it's easier said than done but in time you will get over him.
2007-01-03 07:32:43 · answer #11 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋