my bf is in the royal navy, and weve been together for 5 years. im 20 and hes 22. we were together for 3 years before he joined the navy. i love him so much and know i will marry him. ive seen a friend nof mine cheat on her bf who was in the navy and it devastsed him so much he lesft the navy, i could never do that to my bf. i know he trsusts me but while he is away he has his brother check on me several times a day to make sure im not with another man. his friends wont let me go out on my own with my friends, they always come. and when he comes home we have such a good time but if im wearing a skirt he tell me to put on something else cos he dosent want men looking at me. when hes home he says i have to sleep in his house to make sure im not with someone else.
when i told him he was too protective he said other men are like this. but i cant do anything on my own and tells me when he goes away he dosent like me going out with my friends.
what can i do
2007-01-03 07:22:21 · 4 answers · asked by nicola g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is definitely too over protective in fact he might be considered controlling, Why don't you let him know how it makes you feel when he makes these silly requests. It's almost like he thinks you are incapable off making a "good" decision on your own..I mean who does he think he is ? Your father? I have found in research and also some psychology that his behavior is indicative of guilt on his behalf. Who's watching him and what he's doing. Maybe he's the cheater and he can't possibly image that you are any different than he is. He sounds like he might be a little manipulative.....Question his "so called" authority.
2007-01-03 07:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't trust you. Is that really what you want? You need to talk to him. Tell him you feel sofocated. Tell him that its not right for him to treat you this way. If he keeps this up, he will loose you to another man. This is crazy. Just because he's in the navy and does this now, doesnt mean he will be different when he is out. He could get worse. You dont want him doing this when you are married. If it comes to that. You need to set some rules with him and tell him that he can't run your life. He has no reason to not trust you and send his friends to guard you. You should be able to go out w/ your gf's and have fun. So what if you go out w/ another guy. As long as he's a friend and nothing more. Your boyfriend doesn't have to be the only guy in your life and he should understand that. You can have guy friends too. Good luck!
2007-01-03 07:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by blueroan2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a jealous insecure control freak who doesnt trust you . get out now or you are asking for trouble.
2007-01-03 08:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by clubchaos1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE YOU TWO WILL MAKE A GREAT COUPLE
2007-01-03 07:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋