My guy friend can't seem to get a date to save his life! :( All these girls he meets at bars are brutally mean to him, and he never does anything to deserve it! He's a very quiet, unoffensive person. Why do girls act so mean? Can they detect his very low self-esteem?(and their bullying isn't helping it any!) My friend is 26 yrs old and I really want to help him find a date!(doesn't even have to be a girlfriend, just a girl that likes him and will casually go out with him) Any advice on helping my friend to be more popular with the girls?
2007-01-03 07:12:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women practice dismissal, fear, and preoccupation.
You need an opening line, small talk, and to close with getting her number or a date.
The number one dating advice for women is "play hard to get".
Also, no one has ever seen the start of a relationship, and obese blobs, (that are 50% of the population), have immature hysteria that causes delirium in good looking women.
2007-01-04 07:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend may just have to keep looking until he finds his "Mrs. Right," though if he has never been good at dating, or has low self-esteem he should try a place where everyone isn't drunk and trying to score. If he's a quite person then he could always try the library. It sounds silly, but people there are usually in a more relaxed mood and you'll already have an idea about what kind of person they are based on what books they're checking out. By the way I wish your friend the best of luck, and wanted to say you're a good friend for trying to help him out. ; )
2007-01-03 07:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kyle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to find someone like him who will build up his self-esteem.
I'm a pretty independent, strong-willed person, but for the past couple of years my self-esteem has suffered greatly. I now have a wonderful guy who loves me, and thinks the world of me.
Women want men who can take control, so he has to focus on the things he is good in, and build up his ego a little bit. Not too much, be careful about it though.
Perhaps going to other social places, besides bars, would be the greatest help. I know this sounds insane, but tests have shown that single people that only focus on going to bars are looking for sex. Not everyone, but a lot.
If he seems too easily controllable, too weak, women won't find enough sexual attraction in him, and thus leave him alone.
Other places will be full of people who aren't focusing too much on sex, so the women should see his sweeter side and appreciate it more then.
It sounds like you're looking for someone who will have a deeper bond than just sex with him, and then I suggest staying away from the bars for a while.
Good luck. And good on you for being such a good friend.
2007-01-03 07:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Becca,
I think he's looking in the wrong place. Bars are for callous, obnoxious men to go hunting for Miss Right Now. Nice guys need to go where nice girls are looking for men (would you really try to meet a guy at a bar?). Taking a recreational class, going on a church retreat, going to a young adult Mass or service, getting involved with a cultural club are all good ways to meet people.
If he still wants to go the bar route, there's two things to keep in mind with bad bar girls:
1) They like to steal, so pretend you're with him when he goes.
2) They like to talk about themselves, so have him just ask questions and listen to them.
2007-01-03 07:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by Veritatum17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just the way it works. Especially in bars and other "pickup joints". Women have their defenses up, and they can be brutal, but the trick is to not really care if they are nice or not. If they are not nice, then they aren't interested, and you shouldn't be interested in somebody not interested in you, so just move on to the next one.
If they like you, they will help you in a conversation. If the conversation is awkaward, bail before she gets nasty, I always say.
Aren't ya gals glad you don't have to do this much?
2007-01-03 07:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your friend goes to the wrong places to meet nice women. Real life isn't like the movies, you can't go anywhere to meet nice people, they are in certain places.
Tell your friend to reflect on the kinds og women he is attracted to and why. Sometimes the people we are attracted to are the ones we really SHOULDN'T be with.
2007-01-03 07:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by rosie768 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meeting in bars = divorce
So good thing for him he didn't get attached to them. While finding someone at a place doing something he enjoys doing can work. Such as running into someone while golfing.
2007-01-03 07:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Robby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so sweet of you to be thinking about your friend. To be honest, clubs haven't especially been know to contain the highest level of civility or intellect one's city has to offer. Take him places where he will meet girls with the same interests as his. Get him to meet girls who are friends of yours and are single. Good luck!
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2007-01-03 07:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
try the local date lines,local chat rooms,or maybe some one u know,instead of bars try other places,
2007-01-03 07:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋