2007-01-03 07:12:08 · 45 answers · asked by Kaylaa..<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her that you want to discuss the issue, but not until she stops yelling.
2007-01-03 07:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by kristonianinstitution 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what these "silly things" are, you should realize one detail here: Your mother may be yelling at you, but it's very possible she's not yelling because of you.
After a stressful day, "displacement" happens to many, many people. Here's an example:
Bob works at a factory. He's just been made Supervisor or Foreman or something. The guy he's replaced didn't have anything organized and didn't have anything done. He's in charge now and alreday his obsses are yelling for these things and wondering whether they've made a mistake in promoting him. His friends with whom he used to work are jealous and resentful.
Bob has a stressful day. He comes home to his wife and two kids who are playing tag in the front yard. His wife isn't feeling well and starts asking him to hellp her with some household chores. The kids come in and yell and scream as they continue their game of tag. Bob goes into the room with the television and it's not working right. Bob yells at the wife, the kids and slams the door on his way out to the local pub.
OK, long example, but you understand the idea. Your mother may not be a foreman at a steel mill, but I promise you there are many, many stressors in life. She may have more stress than she realizes and this is one possibility as to why she's yelling at silly things.
2007-01-03 07:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents wants the best for their children. and you said you want to know how you can stop your mom form shouting at you for silly things. maybe the things that you are doing are silly in your eyes but in hers it can really hurt you. I'm guess ing you are a teen . teens always think they know what is best for themselves. when really they don't at all. your mom shouts because maybe the things that you are doing , aren't silly but are the things that she keeps shouting at you for but you constantly do it anyway. maybe she is just tired of repeating herself so only left to do is shout to get your attention that you are doing the same thing she shouted at you yesterday for. if you think the things that you are doing are silly. and you know she will shout at you if you do it , then don't do it all. that's the best thing to do.
i hope this has helped.
2007-01-03 08:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. It is really hard being a Mom and being a kid. Making mistakes and doing silly things is how we learn to make better choices. Tell your Mom you'd like her to help you make better choices and teach you how not to do silly things. Tell her when she shouts it hurts your feelings. Shouting is how she was probably taught as a child. Good luck.
2007-01-03 07:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by mike j 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mum is probably over stressed, too tired, or has a lot to deal with.
Not that it's an excuse, but it's just the sad truth; And I bet she must feel sorry afterwards.
When she's busy doing something, try and stay away.
Sometimes ask her if she'd like a glass of water, a cup of tea, something to eat? give her a kiss and then leave her to it.
She's bound to realize what she's doing and missing out on.
Good luck. xx
2007-01-03 07:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of silly things are you doing? I shout none stop to my kids. Why? because they never listen to word I say, always telling them do this, do that, but they still love me and I´m sure your mum loves you too. It´s what´s called growing up.maybe if you spent more time listening to what your mum is telling you she wont shout as much.
2007-01-03 07:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart stop doing the silly things that make her shout, U should know what they are by now
2007-01-03 09:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your question is a great one.
What you and your mom should come to an understanding is that what you see as silly, she may see as serious. You also need to be understanding and try to see things from your mom's point of view. She may have been working hard to give you things you want, doing housework, putting food in the cabinets, putting up with your dad, whatever.. Moms expect greatness from their children, and when you do something like leave a dirty dish in the sink, it may be the thing that sets her off after a stressful day.
Be mindful of each other. The best thing I could have said to my mom when I was younger was...
"Mom, when you yell at me about XYZ, I feel _____"
Tell her how you feel.... mad, embarassed, stupid, like an idiot, whatever... And then ask her what you can do to help her not yell at you.
2007-01-03 07:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by pisces_dreamer_dreaming 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing the silly things that make her shout
2007-01-03 07:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Kids often do things that seem silly or stupid to an adult. But all adults were kids once, too and we've all done those things. We do eventually outgrow it. When she yells at you for something, merely say "I'm sorry, I won't do that again". Don't just say it, mean it. And don't try to argue your point. Learn a lesson from each mistake and file that info away for future reference. Eventually you will grow up, and she won't be shouting at you for things.
2007-01-03 07:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing silly things.
2007-01-03 07:14:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋