we have 4 kids..26 18 13 11...my wife and i had an arguement 2 days ago because it was midnight and i wanted my kids( only the 11 and 13 year olds) in bed...to diffuse ..i have tried to talk to her without any success...i feel lonely as i feel in one circle and the rest of my famly in the other..Tonight they have gone off to play bowling....at the very last minute my eldest asked me to join them.....should i go knowing our orignal arguement has not been resolved?..even though the original issue was to do with the kids i feel the underlying problem has to be lack of unity with our original issue...what are my kids thinking about me right now?....Should my wife have waited and resolved our arguemet before them going?..Has she made it worse?...what will my kids think of me if i dont go?...Do they (my wife and kids) really want me there ? will it make the situation worse?..Please help
2007-01-03 07:05:28 · 3 answers · asked by Bob P 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The best gift parents can give their children is to show a united front regarding discipline. Arguments and discipline should never take place within earshot of the kids. And when dishing out discipline both parents should show the kids they are in agreement. Now, obviously there are going to be times when you don't agree, so your wife and you will need to negotiate those times. Most likely none of your disagreements are going to be life changing or life threatening so just agree to disagree once in awhile. One time your wife's decision will be used and the next time you disagree, your decision will be used. When that happens though, your kids must feel the two of you are in agreement. If your wife has to have her way all the time, you need to convince her she is doing a great disservice to her children. Somehow you need to convince your wife to agree to this or later on, when your kids really start giving you serious problems, she better get ready to take all the blame for it.
2007-01-03 07:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not miss out on spending time as a family because of an argument with your wife. Tell your wife that you intend to discuss the matter further.
2007-01-03 15:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by swanser 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go this could be the first step towards resolving the original fight
2007-01-03 15:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋