im with a guy that i really love alot. hes a black guy and im white. my parents dont like this kind of stuff. when i say my dad is the most prejidece person ive ever known...he really is. he already told me that if i even "talk" to a black guy ill be thrown out of the house, he'll never speak to me again, and he would never accept it. im a sr. this year in high school and i need my parents for graduation and sr. pictures and stuff like that. i really love him alot. we have been dating for 8 months now....but hiding it. what can i do? i want to tell them but if i do there s no dobt that my dad would hate me and i dont think i could go on with my HOLE family hating me b/c of this. or should i tell them b/c i love him so much?
2007-01-03 07:01:34 · 12 answers · asked by britni h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is a tough situation for you and believe me I am glad that I am not in your shoes but since you have this problem with your family and you love the guy then maybe you should just move on with the man you love and let things blow over, eventually they will come around and if they don't then you just keep moving....You cannot live your life for your family, you cannot make your family happy just because of what they want, you have to make yourself happy for what you want...If they cannot except that then that is there loss and your gain. Go and be with the man you love.
God bless and peace with you and your love!
2007-01-03 07:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...prejudice sounds too nice for your dad...let's call a spade a spade. He's racist!! Terrible that people are still like that in this day and age. I would talk to someone I trust about this...perhaps a guidance counselor at school. Really, that's what their there for. Little does your father know that in some way he's responsible for your hooking up with a member of the opposite race...b/c he was so against it of course subconsiously your going to do the opposite. It's not impossible to be in love as a senior....but you do have your whole life ahead of you as does your b/f. And, you really must think about how the world will treat the two of you...face it..you've been hiding it...so you've been hiding it from the world too. Maybe, the 2 of you wouldn't like how it made you feel if you were out together in the real world. Part of this attraction is that your hiding it!.... Talk to someone you trust.....
2007-01-03 15:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait til after graduation to tell them. By then you are 18 and adult and able to make your own decisions. The color of skin should not determine happiness. If you are happy then your dad should be happy for you. I am so sorry that you have to hide this from your dad. My dad was raised in a racist family. My sister married outside of our race. His family has disowned us. Their loss though! We have 3 beautiful boys out of it too.
2007-01-03 15:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing how your father feels, why did you ever let this happen? Alot of your feelings could be in revolt against your father.
I hate all the prejudice, but just remember that after your bf is gone, your family is always there, so do not jeopardize the family relationship.
2007-01-03 15:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by Alexandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, many men will come and go before you REALLY fall in love. Why rock the boat when this is most likely a temporary romance. Just see him in secrecy til it all wears off,
If it is going to end up long term, then what your parents think is not important now is it?
2007-01-03 15:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents hate you after they find out, they're not really yours parents. They're suppose to love you. You're practically almost an adult. Forget them. Continue with your relationship and have a meeting with them and tell them that you really love this guy.
2007-01-03 15:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by curlyfries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be against your family is part of the attraction of the relationship... be care full.... Do you really love this guy??... think twice
2007-01-03 15:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by patica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with lilsis. It may seem like the end of the world if you're not with this guy, but it won't be. REALLY.
2007-01-03 15:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Stacy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are to young to know what true love is......move on...interacial relationships is very hard.....i hope you open your eyes...your parents are right....but they maybe a little to harsh about their thoughts....remember...they have experienced life ..you have not....you need to think long term...think of what the future may hold if you marry him...and have a kid
2007-01-03 15:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly in love with your b/f, you should fess up to your family. They'll eventually get over it.
2007-01-03 15:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Snoopy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋