my brother in law, has always been more then stupid mentally, and im not just calling names here, its true. hes been through drugs, rehab only because he was not willingly to go to rehab but because he was caught! so maybe the drugs fried his brain some more and now that hes off, nothing but stupid words fall out of his mouth, for example this last christmas he says in front of my kids "mom and dad are santa clause!" he thought he was so funny. i try not to be around him as much as we dont have to but my sister in law and his wife like to push my kids to be friends with him, trying to act more "family-like" and i dont want my kids to be around that idiot at all, what should i do or say or what?
2007-01-03 06:59:14 · 9 answers · asked by americansugar80 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have the right to protect your children from his negative influence. Tell your children that he is a very unhappy man and that sometimes he says things that are inappropriate. Limit the time and circumstances where your children are likely to be exposed to him.
2007-01-03 07:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was wondering what was your reaction after his stupid remark ? Did you try to calm down your kids and explain your point of view in a such transparent manner that anyone could understand your position ? If not, try to explain to everyone that you don't feel comfortable with him; but.., know what ?
Children will learn more about what's good or bad maintaining good relationships with the whole family. It is you the one who spots the difference between good or bad without blaming. Blaming without forgiving will make your children blame.
2007-01-03 07:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by Laura I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your kids, and you can limit the amount of time they spend with anyone. If what your sister-in-law wanted to do is beneficial for the kids, then you should be for it, but if it is more hurt then help, then take his asss off the visiting list!
2007-01-03 07:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are smart - tell them he is sick mentally so they dont beleive anything he says. Try to take the kids out when your husband wants to have him over.
2007-01-03 07:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sad and I feel sorry for him, but I know where you are coming from. Just keep turning down invitations and only visit when you really "have" to. You cant really say out loud. "Dont want to see you guys because he is stupid". Keep your distance.
2007-01-03 07:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for the sake of your kids, keep your distance as much as possible. That is not a good influence to keep around them, not to mention it may show him that you will not tolerate his "problems"
2007-01-03 07:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should support him but do it (on the down low). Dont let him be around your children and dont let him come to family gatherings such as chirstmas.
2007-01-03 07:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by gotansas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your mate have the right to determine who your children come in contact with.........family or not. You've heard the ole saying: We choose friends......Have no choice when it comes to family. However, it IS possible, if you choose to make the choice!
2007-01-03 07:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're your kids and you need to protect them. If that means limiting his time around them or not letting him be around them period then you've got to do what you've got to do.
2007-01-03 07:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋