my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 yrs. we have been living together for 5 months, we are engaged to be married and he is the best to my 3 kids. my issue is that the end of the month he will be going on vacation to pakistan. in pakistan he has a wife and 4 kids. it never bothered me before because i have 3 kids from a previous relationship. now that he is going, iam pissed off and jealous because he will probably sleep with his wife and have another child. what should i do? how would u feel, is this normal in the muslim religion. thanks.
2007-01-03 06:55:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey girl, what's up, hope all is well, don't feel bad about this situation, ill email u with my advice.
2007-01-03 07:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if it is normal for the religion or not. The bottom line is, US Law does not allow you to marry somebody who is already married. Not to mention the fact you already know he is going to sleep with his real wife while over there. Shoot, if you are going to marry a guy like that, you might as well have an "open marriage." It is only going to get worse as the years go by, and who knows how much damage it will do to your kids in the process. You should get out now while you have the chance.
2007-01-03 15:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Jaybo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. No this is not normal in the muslim religion and he should not be going back to his previous wife (or current) and sleep with her its not right. Oh and a word of advice NEVER go to pakistan with him because women (even american) have no rights and you could be stuck there for the rest of your life.
Iv seen it happen before, dont let it happen to you
2007-01-03 15:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by gotansas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow honey sounds to me like you need to run and run fast!! If your not familiar with the customs or whatever you want to call it . sounds to me like your just looking for a father for your children which isnt a bad thing but he has a wife and 4 kids!!! come on now wake up and do whats right for you and your kids
2007-01-03 15:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by treez1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not normal in ANY religion. Do you value yourself so little that you would put up with such a spineless moron? Do you not have any concern for your three children to give them such a stepfather? Leave this man for the sake of your kids!
2007-01-03 14:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sinka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, yes, it is the Muslim way. my advice is to get out of the relationship, it'll end up hurting more than helping. the muslims are allowed four wives (funny, Mohammed had at least forty, the youngest being nine years of age).my advice is to leave him. good luck, i'll be in touch if you want more advice,
2007-01-03 15:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Luv Docta Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Muslim men think they're superior to women and think they can have all these wives.....he will probably sleep with her....dump him..what are you waiting for? How can you allow this?
2007-01-03 14:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by a1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to marry a man who is already married? Do you not realize that your marriage here will not be legit because he is married.
2007-01-03 14:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes is normal. put yourself in his shoes. how would he feel if you were going to Pakistan and be with your boyfriend?
2007-01-03 15:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont see why he is dating someone when he still has a wife [no offence] but tell him that he either has to divorse his wife or it is OVER!!
2007-01-03 15:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by x0x_cAsSi_x0x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋