How do you calm yourself when you can't seem to stop crying?

Question

I have to go to work
{My son was badly beaten New years eve...I'm just beside myself and I can't stop these outbursts of tears...I can't do this at work...I'm usually so good at seperating my life from my job}

Thank-you so much for all your help and support..And the calming angels...There are some really good people here.....thank-you

My co-workers understand...But I am front desk at a gym...so its the public tears I'm worried about...I'll manage I think..Thank you so much.

How am I ever going to choose a best answer...You have all really helped me...You really have ..bless you

Answer 1

I would call in no matter what or go to work crying if they think it is inappropriate they will tell you to go home,if you have to have the money to make ends meet I would call my doctor for a mild nerve pill. I just prayed angels of calm around you.

Answer 2

I just read your previous question that described what happened and honestly, I think I'd be more concerned about you if you didn't feel like crying all the time right now. You're a mother and your reaction is totally and completely normal. I daresay anyone you work with would likely react the same if they were in your position.

Be thankful that even though it was bad, it isn't nearly as bad as it could have been. I'm sure there are many mothers throughout this world who lost a child on New Year's Eve -- so please try to hang on to that thought and be grateful he's still with you.

Whatever you do, don't ever apologize for being a mother who loves her son. Anyone who would fault you for that is the one with the problem.

Answer 3

This is more than just a "simple" incident.

You are shocked and horrified at the viciousness of the attack and cannot fully comprehend the action that occured.

First, have yourself a goodcry and get that out of your system.

second, you need to take some kind of anti-depressant to at least allow you to function (I do hesitate to make that suggestion, but if you cannot get a grasp of your emotions, you will be a wreck).

At work, explain what happened and see if you can get some FMLA to help your son through this

One other thing you need to do is exercise. perhaps the release of endorphans will guide you thorugh this rough time

Answer 4

You are grieving for your son and the injuries that he sustained.
Nothing means more to us than our Children.

The crying is normal to an extent. If it continues for another day, seek a medication from a Physician.

In the mean time, assure your self that you son will recover from the injuries.

My two year old gran daughter was near death from the E. coli bacteria infection. I cried a few times a day, to be very honest with you.

Once, she started to recover...I stop crying. Then, when I held her in my arms on Christmas day, I started to cry again.

We love our children and our gran children so much and we feel the pain of their injuries and Illness within our selves.

Mav

Answer 5

Sorry about what happened. Just always keep in your mind, "As soon as I get home from work I can purge all this out of my system with some tears." Do you have a coworker you can tell about this? Maybe if you tell someone at work it won't be so hard to keep it together. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear about your son. Work may be exactly what you need. It will help you from thinking about what has happened to your son. You truly do need to get your mind off of it and having something else to do does help. When my mother passed away I had to stay strong for my father. Then when he passed away 3 years later I found doing volunteer work really helped. It is just finding something else to occupy your mind that really helps.

Answer 7

First let me say that I am so sorry this happened to you. You have to "compartmentalize." Put your feelings about your son's getting beaten into a box in your mind (it might help to visualize it.) Then close said box tightly, but don't lock it. Then imagine yourself opening another box....and that is all your work stuff. Don't allow stuff from one "box" to interfere with stuff in the other "box."

Answer 8

take some kind of non-drowsy sedative, it will blunt your senses a little bit, or maybe just call in to work and tell them you cant come in today, you may just need some time to get over this and you being at work wont help anything.
Im sorry to hear about your son, I hope he is okay

Answer 9

You gotta let the pain go. If pain didn't exist, we wouldn't know that there's something bad happening. You know that, so let it out. Take deep breathes, think about the problem, acknowledge the fact nothing can be done about it since it has already been, and let go.

Answer 10

Think of something else. Thats all you can do. I know this feeling all too well. Im sorry youre son was hurt. I hope you reported it. Good God, why do ppl have to hurt others? THINK OF SOMETHING ELSE.....and see a doc if ya have to. Itl help.