my boyfiend broke up with me nearly 3 weeks ago, i did nothing wrong and would have done anything for him, he just said he didn't feel the same about me anymore. we went out for 2 months and go to the same college yet we make no more contact with each other. i still care for him and it hurts every time i see him, i just can't seem to let go, i keep thinking he might come back to me but deep down i know its over, i mean if we were to get back together something would of happened by now wouldn't it? he would of kept contact. how do i stop kidding myself like this?
2007-01-03 06:50:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wish these clowns would give a normal answer once in a while.
but anyways, i know it hurts, i just got rid of my relationship, and this was the girl i thought i wanted to marry. nothing wrong with us, except she lied about a few things, and i thought it was best that we parted ways. but your situation is clear cut, i know the feeling of walking into somewhere and seeing the person you fell in love with. man does that hurt, but the only way you can get over him is by hanging out with different people. guys and girls alike. nothing will come from this if you are sitting at home staring at four walls not knowing what to do. i have had a g/f in my life that bent over backwards for me, but after a while for some reason, the attraction wasn't there. swettie, never change your kind ways, there is a person out there who will worship the ground YOU walk on. just give things a bit of time, and i can promise you this. people like who we have dealt with, will come to terms one day of what they loss. 2 months, 6 months, 2 yrs. it doesnt matter the length of the relationship, they will, and it will hit them like a ton of bricks. you'll find happiness, and you need to let it all fall into place. 3 weeks is not too long, so try and think of other things as week. realize that he lost you, and you probably didnt lose too much from him. good luck, and if you any more questions .....dwntwnwoo@hotmail.com b/c i have been in that same boat, and it sucks rowing alone
2007-01-03 07:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by brianju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the greatest healer of all time and when we allow it to occur naturally it is a little easier. I remember breaking up with my first wife and thought that live as I know it was over. I prayed and wished only to be reunited with her. Years later I now realize that I was fortunate that my wishes weren't answered but it doesn't happen overnight. Much like a death we have to grieve the loss of any relationship and go through the whole grieving process ie: denial, anger, acceptance etc. You'll have some bad days but some good days also as this takes place. Soon enough before you know it your feeling 100% again. Then you will also be ready to get involved in another relationship. Fact of life is that your heart will probably be broken numerous times before you meet Mr. Right but you will also be responsible for breaking hearts along the way. Luckily the heart is a pretty resilient body part and heals itself. Good luck to you and soon enough you will be able to continue on with your life and who knows you and your ex may actually become better friends than lovers some day, as my ex and myself have become. Best of luck and please believe me when I say it will get better.
2007-01-03 07:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already answered your question my dear, whether you want to except it or not you will have to let him go, I know it is hard and your heart is broken but everything that has been broke will mend itself over time...You have to let go if you want to heal, you have to let go because it is not healthy for you to keep going through this and having yourself sick over it. You have to let go because he already has!
I know that this is not what you want to hear but face it he has let go and he wants nothing else to do with you..so since this is the way it is then you have to go and live your life or at least try and not give him the satisfaction of thinking that you are down and out because you are not. Stand up girl and move, and show him that you are stronger than he thought and go and live your life and find a man that is truly worthy of you and your feelings because there are men out there that is looking for that....Just trust yourself and and do what you think is the best thing but you must let go first to fly in the wind like the eagle!
Peace to you and Good Luck
2007-01-03 06:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself it was his loss. Now that he is out of the picture, the right man can come into your life now. Be thankful he broke it off. What if the relationship continued on a little longer, you'd really be hurt. The next best thing is right around the corner. Get ready!
2007-01-03 06:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by damesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out, get drunk, kiss a couple of guys, and realize how much fun you are having without him!
It is always easier for me knowing I can spend as much time with my friends as needed. They keep mind off things and I can talk to them and let my feelings out. Give it sometime and you'll get over it!
2007-01-03 06:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with your friends more, get a group together, go out, and find someone hotter and more amazing! =)
If he's into you, he'll get jealous and realize that he must act FAST if he wants to keep you. If not, you'll still have won b/c you'll have a new and perhaps much more wonderful guy.
2007-01-03 06:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by abby j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.... put it down to experience and learn from it.... Losing someone close is alway's painful to deal with,.. but it's a part of growing up, that everyone face's at one time or another!... Dust yourself off,... hope you'll have better luck next time,... maybe check out some online student site's,.. or keep an eye out for another cutey,.. and move on....
2007-01-03 07:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by peanut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when a guy "takes a break" he just really wants to get a reaction from us. my ex did that and he got a reaction he didn't expect; someone nice came along and i got married. just be yourself around him and remember that's who you do best. also, that old saying seems to be true; " if you love something set it free. if it comes back, it's yours. if it doesn't, then it never was." good luck on your quest for soulmate.
2007-01-03 07:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cry. A lot of ppl do it. You clearly have low self esteem if you want to be with a man who doesnt want you. Work on that.
2007-01-03 06:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a counselor. If you are in college, you can find excellent counseling services. Do what you need to do so you can move on with your life.
2007-01-03 06:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋