What should I do in this case? I work with two girls in the same work place. At first, I like Yen?

Question

I think she is pretty,outgoing, and funny. But I know that Jenny likes me, but because Jenny is often quiet, so I choose to hang out with Yen. After hang out with Yen, I find out that I don't like her personality that much because I think she is pretentious and manipulative. So I stop hanging out with her. I start to notice Jenny without letting her knows. I have never asked Jenny out alone, but we often hang out in a group with other coworkers, and I think I like Jenny personality and her look is okay. She's a straighforward person but she is really warmhearted. Now I want to date Jenny, what should I do, what should I say to her? (Note: I'm twenty seven now, so please don't tell me that's I am immuture. Plus, I did not have sex with Yen, so please don't tell me that I'm a jerk). I only need advice to date the right girl for the long term. And if thing works out, I will marry Jenny.

Answer 1

Your neither a jerk nor immature, but you are naive.

What you did not consider is that your going to have a relationship with someone who WORKS AT THE SAME PLACE THAT YOU DO.

There are no rules against romance, but this is cutting it too close for you.

In my opinion, dating and marrying someone from the same work place is a little tenuous at best. Risky at the least.

Why?

EVERYONE WILL KNOW YOUR BUSINESS!

The workplace, when it comes to couples who work in the same job, is worse than any reality show you've watched. Some companies encourage relationships. Others shy from it (some with good reason).

If your dead serious about this relationship, you should be with someone you KNOW your going to be compatible with. Just make sure that you know that not everyone is perfect and you take the good with the bad.

Another thing. Take this step by step. You like this girl, but how do you know she'll be right for marriage?

You don't.

Take it in steps (and be sure if you move forward with Jenny, be sure to find another job).

Good luck.

Answer 2

You stated that you are 27, but maturity isn't measured by age and clearly you are not as mature as you think you are. To even mention the idea of marriage to someone that you haven't even asked out on a date yet is totally irrational. I really think that you need to decided what it is that you really want. It seems to me that you may think that Jenny is a nice person, but for whatever reason you are not really attracted to her you said the she had a nice personality and that she looks okay...this is a disaster waiting to happen. You can't think that you can have a meaningful relationship with someone that you describe as "her look is okay" I think at this point you should just remain friends with Jenny and if it is meant to be then it will be, but I think that workplace relationships are a bad idea.

Answer 3

Just forget about Yen all together, she has nothing to do with this. You dont like her anyway.
Next time you hang out with the coworkers, sit by Jenny and when you get the chance ask her if shed like to go somewhere after like to eat or something.

Answer 4

Jenny

Answer 5

If Jenny and Yen are good friends you do not have a chance. Otherwise, just make sure to unambiguously break up with Yen first, then you are free to date anyone.

Answer 6

Just ask her out. If she says/asks with others, just verify you want to go out just the two of you. If you ask her out for dinner, maybe it'll be clear right away. If she says anything about Yen, just be honest with her.

Good luck!

Answer 7

The best advice I can give you is don't date your co-workers. It causes too much stress and can really mess up your job.

Answer 8

Follow your heart. I just hope you aren't just settling. Another thing, be careful about dating where you work.

Answer 9

Don't date girls you work with...dummy.