and i always say no cos i never know if i want to go out with them. its happened so many times and i dont know what im afraid of. most of them are gr8 guys and then i hate myself for stringing them along. does this ever happen to anyone?
2007-01-03 06:25:45 · 21 answers · asked by just a girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 16
ive been out with a few guys but i always call it off in a matter of days/weeks. i think im afraid of letting someone get close to me
2007-01-03 06:31:29 · update #1
Yes..maybe you like them as a friend and nothing more you just enjoy flirting or maybe you need to go out with a few and see how it goes..dont be afraid..its only one date.
2007-01-03 06:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either your instincts are telling you that the guys are not good for you, or you have self doubt problems. Maybe, you reconized that the guys asking you out aren't for you. Many women, and men, actively seek out significant others that will treat them like trash. They keep choosing the same types over and over. They have self-esteem issues. And, of course, there are plenty of arseholes out there looking for their next victum. It's the old predator-prey dynamic. Sub-consciously you know this would happen if you said yes. So, you say no but continue to hang around the same type.
Next time someone ask say yes to lunch. Lunch dates are usually laidback. There are less expectations with lunch dates. Does anything he does set off any alarms. Gradually ease into real dating. If you are nervous, plan the date around something you like to do.
2007-01-03 06:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by ontopofoldsmokie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they ask u out b/c ur sending obvious signs of liking them back, or what they would consider hints. dont flirt and expect nothing to happen in return. ur just hurting all these guys. if u think uve made a mistake, u can tell the guy u were wrong, and that u think itd be a good move.
2007-01-03 06:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hate the outcomes, then why do it in the first place? Don't toy with people and their affections. It can turn into a hurtful thing, not just for you but for the other as well. Think before you act.
2007-01-03 06:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by ☆BB☆ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a professional stringer-alonger. I have a serious relationship but from all those years of men throwing cash at me I can't stop flirting! All my friends understand this, most men do, too. Its just harmless fun. Enjoy it. You'll meet someone you want to be serious with someday!
2007-01-03 06:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That can be construed as being a tease. Perhaps your affraid of being in a relationship? Or maybe you're just not ready yet. How old are you?
2007-01-03 06:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps rejecting boys makes you feel powerful in the psychological scheme of things.
2007-01-03 06:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you could be afraid of commitment? Or you could be afraid of being a dissapointment
2007-01-03 06:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well arent you cute? you know what your doing when you flirt- your basically saying go ahead ask me out i dig you to- you like to have that power over guys- then turn them down- you know what your doing- and yes i would say alot of women do it- i know i have before
2007-01-03 06:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by shannon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend does the SAME thing!! lol... this is kinda funny because i was just talking to her about it. Just TRY IT!!! The next person who does this... say YES!! You never know what you are missing && if you liked them enough to flirt... you like them enough to say yes... remember you can always break up if it doesn't work...
2007-01-03 06:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by curry_lover4ever 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋