I dont think it is.Do you ? Why or why not?
2007-01-03 06:21:19 · 17 answers · asked by Jessie006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It used to be but its not now..thats old fashioned.
2007-01-03 06:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In this day and age, it's not mandatory to ask for permission to propose to a woman. But...it would be a good thing to do, especially if you don't know her parents that well. Getting to know her parents and letting them know how you envision a future with their daughter might alleviate some anxiety on their part and bring about more acceptance of you and your girlfriend's relationship. Even if you do know them well and they love you as a son already and they know that the two of you are planning a future, to let them (and your parents) know what you are planning in advance of the event would be nice. I
2007-01-03 14:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by rockjock_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not mandatory but it is definitely respectful. It makes them feel included. I have a really rocky relationship with my dad and my husband asked my uncle for my hand in marriage bc he knew that his opinion mattered more to me than my dads. My uncle is a very intiminating guy so it took alot of guts! They have been really close ever since too. Its mainly just the thought that counts!
2007-01-03 14:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by Hair Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. But what's important is to have manners and consider telling them that you would LOVE to have their daughters hand in marriage. After all no matter how you look at it, that's their child.
Give them the respect and courtesy they require from you and make a solid relationship with them as if your their son. Nothing makes the point of being responsible than to show them.
They want nothing but the best of life for their daughter and you want nothing but to give and get the best.
Good luck.
2007-01-03 14:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny that you should ask this question... My son just got engaged over the holidays. I asked him if he was going to ask her dad for permission and he said no as all her older sisters got engaged without asking permission. When I got engaged (over 29 years ago) I did ask her father out of respect to him.... I would say discuss this with your intended and go with what she feels is right. She knows him better than you do...
Good Luck and congratulations!
2007-01-03 14:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by Dan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You want to know if she wants to marry you, you don't want to know if her parents want to marry you. I'd be offended if a man thought he should ask my parents like I wasn't old enough to decide if I could marry him.
We live in a society now that is supposed to respect that women have a brain. Those rules applied when women were thought to be the property of the parents.
2007-01-03 14:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by choice478 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been in this spot twice as the woman. Her parents think it is mandatory and I think you should humor them and just ask them first. If they say no, ask her anyway.
2007-01-03 14:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not MANDATORY, but it's highly suggestive, shows respect, and will prevent a lot of problems in the future between you and your in-laws. Just think about it in terms of how it'll make your girl feel, not yourself.
2007-01-03 14:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no its not mandatory that we do anything but pay taxes and die.The tradition was started years ago that a man ask the parent/s hand in weddings as a blessing from the family but nope no loger mandatory but if you really like this lady you will please her if you do ask.
2007-01-03 14:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, its the law, otherwise the her dad only has to give you one cow instead of two.
Just kidding. Do it if you know her parents and have a good relationship with them, since you are not really "asking" you are just letting them know your intentions.
2007-01-03 14:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by Greg D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mandatory? No. Polite and respectful? Yes.
2007-01-03 14:24:15 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋