how do i stop feeling inadequate in work?

Question

I feel very insecure and inadequate at moment in my working environment as we have had two new gals started. They are both petite wear tight clothes so every time they bend over their g string is flashing, theyre quite loud and all the guys seem to fancy them. It even got to the stage i dont want ot go on work dos as all the attention is always on them and the guys who i normally get on with tend to pay all the attention to them even though i get on with them as well. It makes me feel like a spare part and it doesnt help that im shy

Answer 1

If you cant beat them join them.

Answer 2

You've liked this guy for ages so of course you're going to feel from the start worried that you might not measure up to him, in your eyes you are not on an equal level with him. But have you asked yourself if he has those same feelings himself? Name one person who thinks they're great and perfect in every way? We all have things we don't like about ourselves, physically and personality. Most of us chose a partner who has the qualities that we would like to have ourselves. Opposites really do attract. Maybe he would like to be quieter and more centred, not as rash or so popular that he has lots of friends but no good friends that he can rely on no matter what. He might feel that you are intellectual and thoughtful and everything that he feels he's not. Work on your self-esteem outside of this relationship if that's what you want. He is with you because of how he feels about you, why would you want to change that now that everything is going so well? If you did, he might not be happy. We never really know why someone chooses us, just be happy that when you find the right person, that they do and love it and enjoy it and be happy just as you are.

Answer 3

Wow, you really need to keep yourself in check. It dissrespects your professionalism to base your worth on what others think of you there. If the guys are all over the new girls, maybe it is because they are looking for the easy chicks? Guys like new conquests and if these girls are willing to flaunt it, the guys will react. Be above those girls and remember that the one the guys really want is the one they can't have. Don't talk or spread the rumors of the girls, they are doing a good enough job of showing who thay are all on their own. I hope you take my advise and respect who you are in that work place. If you can not find that ground, then find a new job and start over somewhere else. If you do, it go to show that you really need to think about your independant worth. Other people are not resposible for you feeling worthy of respect. That is something that you demand at the workplace in your mannors and professionalism
Best of luck

Answer 4

have more self confidence and stick to your morals.

they are just shallow, meaningless showy people. after the obsession that some men seem to have with purely WHAT women are instead of WHO they are, the men at your work will remember who is the actual interesting female is.

stick at it and keep reminding yourself that they are the unfortunate ones, thinking that they have to rely on their bodies to get mens attention.

i think you'll just have to put up with the men being like that for a bit, but soon the tight-clothed act will get boring.

hoep that things get better for you soon, sounds like you deserve to be happier far more than the new girls.

hope this helps

Happy New Year! x

Answer 5

There is nothing better in this world than a shy girl, not pretentious big headed or conceited. You are worth so much more than these 'show offs' take no notice guys always prefer the quieter girls for long term relationships.

Answer 6

I can understand how you feel. Does your work have a dress code? It sounds like they are dressing innappropriately for work, unless you work at a strip club. Try to remember any guy that is interested in girls like that aren't your type anyways. Also I'm sure these girls are not taken seriously at work. Try to shine by doing a great job at work and being a good person.

Answer 7

Work is not primarily a social club. Just smile benevolently at all the children at play at work. Become the person who does the job well and gets the promotions.

Answer 8

Take it from me, honey...these kinds of girls won't be around long. Women who use their ASSetts instead of working usually end up getting fired for their incompetence or charming some man (who eventually gets sick of them) into doing their work. They will also be in competition with each other. Don't sweat it. I'll bet money they aren't there in 6 months. Hold your head high and be yourself.

Answer 9

Stop caring and start relizing what ever it is about you that makes you a fantastic human if you dont see it neither will they the saddest part about intimidation is that we allow it im sure your great and anyway is that the kind of guy you want anyway

Answer 10

First off, look at what you do, are you the best at it? Make sure you are. If sex has become an important qualification for employment, you should probably move on. You just need to be the best you!!!!

Answer 11

i was gonna take the mick but you sounded ok so here a sensible idea.....

dont worry about it they are the sort of girls men want for one night of sordid "you-know-what". at the end of it its you who'll get picked first for a serious long term releationship. play it cool your probably better looking and a better person anyway it's just that you dont realise it!! :-) be your self beatifull!