i'm mad cuz my bestfriend gets dates all the time! right now she has atleast 15 guys begging for her affection and i don't even have one guy....everyone seems to love her. from old men to young men even teenagers! just the other day a guy took her on a shopping spree and she didn't even have to sleep weith him! why is she so special that she gets so much attention?
2007-01-03 06:04:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have friends that would always get the attention and I would never get looked at. Sometimes, that would really make me sad as I know I am a good person and I am not that bad looking either. One is a better dancer than me, or skinnier than me, or had prettier hair than me. I never said anything, because that is just the way it turned out.
You have to start liking yourself for who you are. You have to start showing confidence in the person who you have become. When you get mad at those things, you bring negativity yourway. You need to see the positive in things. I don't necessarily see the positive in all the affection she is getting. She probably isn't getting the affection she really wants. Who wants affection from the old men? I seemed to attract the old men, ewwww. That is just perverted. If they weren't close to my age, I didn't want the attention. Maybe she just wants to be friends with them. Nothing wrong with that. It wouldn't be her fault if they wanted something different, as long as she is upfront about it. Honesty is a must.
Start focusing on yourself. What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? Who are you looking for in a guy? Be realistic about it too. Value yourself and your selfworth. Once you start that you will start attracting the right people towards you and you never know where that will lead you.
What do you like to do? Do you like to bowl, do you like to fish, do you like to swim, do you like to read? Try to go to places like that where you might meet someone with common interests.
Start up conversations with people just as friends. As you get to know people as friends, you may start to meet others and possibly get to meet Mr. Right, and Mr. Right might just been well worth waiting for. (I should know, I am 39 and just finally have met someone worth more than I ever knew....) Hugs to you, don't rush things that are well worth waiting for. Be happy for your friend who is just outgoing. You will be ok. My prayers are with you.
2007-01-03 06:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. My BF and I had the same taste in guys, unfortunately ALL of them only wanted to taste her.LOL k, sorry.
Anyway, It is just the way it is. Observe. Look at what those guys really want. Does she advertise it more than you? Does she play into their games more than you? Maybe you see those guys for what they really are, so they don't bother with you.
My best advise to you is to observe. You will see why.
By the way, now that we are older, I have just as many guys interested in me. I have watched enough to realize we didn't like the same type of guys afterall. She had the guys who wanted a girly high maintance trophy. I am a low maintence tomboyish woman and have found there are plenty of men who enjoy my type over hers.
We are still BF for over 10 years, but the playing field has changed a bit and we both get what we want now.
2007-01-03 14:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by an_awsome_woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be her confidence, i have a friend who isnt pretty at all, she not nice or anyting, but she thinks very highly of herself. and sometimes guys are attracted to that. if its her beauty then the guys shes dating are shallow. and dont care about her. the just want to say to their buddies, hey look at that hottie- yep she my girl......... I know how you feel i really do, this girl at my school is new, and shes had 5 boyfriends in the first semester.... and i havent had one ever, the way i see it, God is testing u and me i guess.... one day you will find a guy better then all the ones shes dated ever.... if you can get some more self confidence, maybe a little mascara, and keep a great personallity all sorts of guys will be over you
good luck
dessi <3
2007-01-03 14:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by Susanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only explanation I can think of is that she is hott! That gets guys going or if she has something you know like a cool car or something that they want.... or and the very end if its possible but I doubt it is that she knows them and sets it up to make people jealous... Hang out with her more often and try and find a pattern that all these men follow and what they want from their woomen and see what she does to get them or ask her and tell her how you feel and if youre in for a conversation
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2007-01-03 15:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
attraction to a particular girl is based on many different things, but one HUGE factor is competition. Once a girl starts getting the attention of a few guys, other guys will start to compete as if its a contest to win her over. They might actually not find her that attractive of share much in common with her, but they will in fact go for the prize. if you know what i mean.
2007-01-03 14:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by justin c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has confidence and everytime you see her have another guy second glance or what not you get jealous and it shows. You're giving up the wrong vibes. Guys love girls who are sure of themselves. Be confident with who you are and stop judging the amount of guys she is getting. Pay attention more to yourself.
Be happy for your friend. Your turn will come.
2007-01-03 14:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is not looking for a boyfriend. Have you not noticed? Everry time someone is taken or just has many dates then more dates come around but when you are alone then no one seems to ask yo out.
2007-01-03 14:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by sl2mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having dates with many people may also kill your time. focus on other things and get a great achivements , they many people come for you in right time. Focus on studies and physical games or personality development they will help you long run.
smart wins the sight and merit wins the heart ( try to improve your merits )
2007-01-03 14:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by Naren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be she s beautiful, or has something special , or she s more open to everyone comes gets, it s not gud. i advice u to stick on one person u love and he loves u, that s enough, u should not be attracted by all people to feel ur value, me myself people stick on me even youngers and my students but, i do nt give them any attention coz this not wat i want , i do not want all people run behind me, i want only , only one guy love him and loves me, the one i feel my existence with. my soul with , not more, so be patient, people re not the same. so , u need to meet one, he is coming one day.
2007-01-03 14:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by gentle whisper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you actually sat with her while with these people. many people have a way of conversing with people to gain sympathy either subconcious or conciously. in the end many lose respect for that person. or they dont really have respect for her. dont try to "mimic" her be yourself and find a differnt crowd who can resopect YOU.
2007-01-03 14:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋